Ne Mayıs’mış… Ezdi Geçti!

Vallahi ne aydı şu Mayıs ayı… Biliyorum, bir çoğumuz için Mayıs ayı çok belirleyici ve etkileyici bir ay oldu. Üzerimizden geçen bir silindir, geleceğe dair tüm umutlarımızı, medeni yaşamı yeniden getirme hayallerimizi ezdi geçti. Yeni tur, yeni şans misali, başa döndük yine. Bir yandan yorgun, öfkeli, ve yılgınlığın etkisiyle paralize durumdayız, diğer yandan müthiş bir sivil toplum hareketi ve dayanışması içindeyiz. Bir sonraki seçimlere kadar… Durmak yok, yola devam diyoruz. Ne için? Hak, hukuk, adalet, eşitlik, demokrasi… için.

 

Hak, hukuk, adalet eşitlik okey, ama demokrasi için biraz tereddütlüyüm. “Ne yani, karşı mısın demokrasiye?” diyor olabilirsin. Yalan söylemeyeceğim. Yaşadığımız bu düzen, gücü elinde tutanların ve yönetenlerin hakimiyetinde olduğunu varsaydığımız düzen, demokrasiyle geliyor ve kendini sürdürüyorsa, “bunun nesi demokrasi?” derim ben buna. Haksız mıyım? Demokrasi adına yapılanlar insanı düşündürtüyor. Hele ki geldiğimiz duruma demokrasi adına yapılan reformlarla gelindiğini düşününce.

 

Sokrates demokrasi için, “çeşitlilik ve düzensizlikle dolu, hem eşitlere hem de eşit olmayanlara bir tür eşitlik dağıtan büyüleyici bir yönetim biçimidir.” der. Platon, demokrasinin diktatörleri, tiranları ve demagogları iktidara getirme riski taşıdığını öne sürer.  Hatta, demokrasilerin yönetmek için en iyi donanıma sahip olanların iktidara gelmesinin pek olası olmadığını ve uygun becerilere ya da ahlaka sahip olmayan liderlere sahip olduğunu iddia eder. Platon Republic metninde Sokrates’in “demokrasinin aptal liderleri” olarak nitelendirdiğini belirtir. İkinci Dünya Savaşı’nı kazanmasından birkaç ay sonra İngiliz halkının kendisini başbakanlık görevinden uzaklaştırmasının ardından Winston Churchill demokrasiye alaycı yaklaşımıyla “Demokrasi en kötü yönetim biçimidir – denenmiş olan diğerleri hariç.” lafını eder*. Sence de komik, bir o kadar trajik değil mi?

 

Sana ufak bir olay anlatayım. 28 Mayıs günü, Türkiye’de Cumhurbaşkanlığı seçimi yaşanırken, ben Barcelona’nın belediye seçimleri için sandık başına gittim ve oyumu verdim. Birkaç adayın arasından seçim yapmam gerekiyordu. 6 yıldır yaşadığım şehrin yönetimine dair oldukça yeterli bilgi ve deneyime sahip olduğum, ve bilinçli ve entelektüel bir vatandaş olduğum halde, kendimi yeterli derecede ehil göremiyordum. İtiraf ediyorum ki içimde büyük bir sorumluluk yükü, hatta kuşku vardı. Eve adayları tanıtan sayfa sayfa kağıtlar gelse de, onları okuyup internetten araştırıp taahhütlerini incelesem de, yine de yeterince bilinçli bir tercih yapacak kadar kendime güvenemiyordum.

 

Doğrudur! “Cahil” kesim dediğimiz topluluktan hiçbir farkım yoktu. Kendimce öyle. Ne kadar okusam sorsam soruştursam da, bir yere kadar bilebilir ve anlayabilirdim. Yapacağım seçim de o doğrultuda bilinçsiz veya sağlıksız olacaktı. Sence de kandırılmaya açık bir durum değil mi? Demeye çalıştığım şu ki, yönetilmek istediğimiz şekli seçerken pek de rasyonel yollarla değil, büyük ölçüde duygusal dürtülerle (sezgi) yapıyoruz. Sonuç işte ortada! “Her millet layık olduğu şekilde yönetilir.” (Joseph de Maistre).

 

İşin ironik tarafı şu ki, de Maistre, bu lafları Aydınlanma Çağının yükselişi, Orta Çağ’ın önyargılarından, bağnazlığından ve ideolojilerinden özgürleşmeye, bilgiye yönelme döneminde zikretmiş, ve progresivismin (ilericiliğin) karşıtı olarak, hakların kendi kaderini tayin etmelerini engelleyecek gerici sistemlerin avukatlığını yapmış olması. Kendisi bir demokrasi karşıtıymış, açık açık da söylemiş. Ne var ki günümüzün “aptal liderleri” büyük kurnazlıkla demokrasi laflarıyla kafamızı karıştırıp kendi kendilerine hizmet etmeyi müthiş beceriyorlar.

 

Sokrates tarihi sayfalardan çıkagelip demokrasiye ve seçimlerde oy verme konusuna çok güzel bir benzetmeyle açıklık getiriyor aslında.  Öğrencisiyle diyalogunda şöyle sorar: “Eğer ki deniz yoluyla bir yolculuk yapmak isteseydin, geminin kontrolünün kimde olacağına nasıl karar verilmesini isterdin? Rastgele ve herhangi bir grup insan tarafından mı, yoksa deniz seyahatleri konusunda deneyimli, bilgili ve eğitimli insanlar tarafından mı?” diye sorar. Öğrencisi ehil olan kişiyi seçeceğini söyler. Buna cevaben Sokrates “Peki bu durumda nasıl olur da, bir ülkedeki yetişkin insanların rastgele ve herhangi bir grubunun bir ülkeyi kimin yöneteceğine karar verebilecek donanımda olduğunu düşünebilmekteyiz?” der**.

 

Sokrates seçimlerde oy kullanmayı yeteneğe, bilgi ve beceriye bağlar. Yeterli donanıma ve eğitime sahip olmadan insanlara oy kullanma hakkı vermenin, fırtınalı bir havada yolculuk yapacak bir geminin kontrolünün kime teslim edileceği kararını alma yetkisini vermekle aynı olduğunu savunur.  Oy kullanmayı “bir sezgi” olarak görmenin yanlış olduğunu ve diğer alanlarda olduğu gibi insanlara sistematik bir şekilde öğretilmesi gerektiğini önerir.

 

Şimdi, “Ne oluyor sana Shirli, neden bozdun kafayı demokrasiyle?” diyeceksiniz. Valla ben de bilsem, yazacağım nedenini. 28 Mayıs gecesinin ardından içimde tuhaf sorgulayıcı düşünceler hakimdi. Öfke, isyan, kaygı kalmamış, yerini “neyi farklı yapmalıyız” soruları almıştı. Ondandır belki de, bir önceki yazımda yeniden umudu yitirme hali yerine susmak ile sessiz kalma arasında kaldığım sıkışmışlık halini yazdım. Bir kabullenişin ardından gelen harekete geçme hali… Şu anda da geriye dönük bir analiz yapma hali…

 

Bilmem, kelimelerim hallerimi anlatmakta yeterli mi… Bazen kelimeler kifayetsiz kalabiliyor. Çünkü bazı haller anlatılmaz, anlatılamaz! Yaşanır! Bir kırıntı dahi olsa, bu satırları okurken kelimelerin içinde kendini buluyorsan eğer, işte bil ki, yalnız değilsin. Asıl güzel olan, sen ve ben varsak, bil ki dışarda bir yerlerde dahası var. Hem de daha niceleri…

 

Ege Denizinin ortasında bir yerde…

18 Haziran 2023

 

*Demokrasi en kötü yönetim biçimidir.

https://dusunbil.com/demokrasi-en-kotu-yonetim-bicimidir/

**Sokrates demokrasiden neden nefret etti?

https://evrimagaci.org/sokrates-demokrasiden-neden-nefret-etti-4733

 

Susmak İle Sessiz Kalmak Arasında Bir Dilemma

Bir süredir sessizim. Yazmak istesem de yazamadım. İçimde birikmiş sözcükler düşünceler, sıkışmış hapsolmuş haldeler. Halbuki yazacak çizecek çok fazla şeyler oldu, oluyor. Hepimiz görüyoruz, ama bir şey yapamıyoruz. Leonard Cohen’in meşhur lafı “Herkes biliyor geminin su aldığını. Herkes biliyor kaptanın yalan söylediğini. Ve herkes biliyor zarların hileli olduğunu.” bugünler içinmiş meğer…

 

Evet, bir süredir yazmadım, çünkü yazacak olsam yine aynı konuda yazacaktım. Bana bile kabak tadı verdi. Türkiye’nin geleceği ve seçim sonuçlarının getireceklerini artık daha fazla yazmak istemedim. Ne var ki, sabah akşam, çevremdeki herkes gibi, bu konuyla meşguldüm. Uykularım bozuldu, sinir sistemim altüst oldu, yeme düzenim şaştı, yaşam odağım kaçtı, bedensel hareketlerim ağırlaştı, neşem gitti… Parafini tükenmekte olan bir mum gibi, hala ayakta olsam da, ışık versem de, ferim kaçtı. Tam tabiri, “ışıklar yanıyor, ama evde kimse yok” hali. Hepsi de haksızlığa uğramanın, çaresizliğe düşmenin, ve gelecekleri görmenin dayanılmaz ağırlığından. Kim demişse, doğru demiş; cehalet kesinlikle bir mutluluk!

 

Bunlar olup biterken bir yandan da, boş durmadım. Yazmasam da, okudum, bilgi kabımı doldurdum. Bile bile mutlu olmaya ters düşmeyi seçmişim gibi gündemi takip etmeye devam ettim. Yerimde duramayıp, suskun kalmayı beceremeyip okuduklarımı sosyal mecralarda paylaşmaktan kendimi alamadım. İçimde ciddi güçlü bir ses bana, “ne oturuyorsun, kalk, susma, harekete geç, sana ait olana sahip çık, başkalarından sahip çıkmalarını bekleme, gücü onlara atfetmek yerine kendinde ara, bul, ve sesini duyur!” diyordu. 23 Mayıs günü kızım “Anne, instagrama çok bakma” diye DM attı. Ben de, tamam, bırakacağım dedim. Benzer bir uyarıyı 19 Şubat tarihli “Umudun Yasını Tutmak da Varmış” yazımı yazdıktan sonra annem-babamdan işittim. Ama, ne yapayım, o içimdeki “harekete geçmiş varlık” dinmek bilmiyor, susmak istemiyordu. Bir yerden çatlak bulup, karanlığın içine doğru sızan ışık huzmeleri gibi çıkmaya çabalıyordu. Neden? Daha fazla ruhu uyandırmak, olacaklara gözlerini açmak, ve geleceğimizi (gençlerimizin geleceğini) koruyabilmek için.

 

Biliyorum, bazen en iyi cevap sessiz kalmaktır. Ama “Susmak, dayanılması çok güç bir cevaptır.” (Sadi Şirazi). İşte içine düştüğüm ikilem, sıkışmış kaldığım susmak ile sessiz kalmak arasındaki nokta… Çünkü “Susmak; sessiz kalmak değil, ağız dolusu bir çığlıktır aslında. Susmak; sahibini arayan, tepeden tırnağa bir yalnızlığın kahra dönüşen isyanıdır…” (Bedirhan Gökçe Göktan). Hangisi doğru, içimdeki çığlığın ve bilginin içinde boğulmayı seçmek mi, yoksa böğürürcesine onları dışarı atmak mı? Kimin pahasına? Neyin pahasına?

 

Tarihleri yazan büyük liderler dönemi artık geçti, kurtarıcı kahraman devri geride kaldı. 100 yıllık liderlik teorilerinin gelişimini izlerseniz, liderlik olgusu büyük lider (Great Man teorisi diye geçer) figüründen, takipçilerin gücüne dayalı liderlik modellerine evrildi. Toplumun geneli henüz farkında olmasa da, gün gibi ortada, güç liderlerde değil, takipçilerde. Bugün etkili takipçiler (effective followers) birer lider gibi işlev görüyor, takipçileri ve liderleri harekete geçiriyor, değişimi gelişimi tetikliyor. O yüzden “susamıyorsan susma, duramıyorsan durma, bir diyeceğin varsa söyle” diyorum.

 

Ziya Paşa Akyürek “Bazen öyle bir yerde durursun ki, insanlar ne desen yanlış anlarlar. İşte orada susmak en güzeldir.” demiş. Güzel demiş! Bir ekleme de ben yapayım. Yanlış anlaşılma pahasına ve sevdiklerinle ters düşmeyi göze alarak, savunduğun değerler için sesini çıkarmalı ve kendine saklamamalısın. Bir an geliyor ve içindeki o dürtü seni harekete itiyorsa, ne pahasına olursa olsun susmaman gerekiyor.

 

Bu satırları yazarken, sana yazıyormuşum gibi okuyorsun, biliyorum. Aslında, sana değil laflarım. Kendime! Susmak ile sessiz kalmak arasındaki dilemmamı asla ve kat’a unutmayayım, sesimden vazgeçmeyeyim, ve varlık ışığımı yaşamımın sonuna kadar daim kılmayı başarabileyim diye kendime yazıyorum. Sen de, içinden kendine bir parçalar alıyorsan eğer, istediğin kadarını al, uygula.

 

04 Haziran 2023

Barcelona

 

Şakası Yok! Sondan Önceki Son Çıkıştayız!

Daha önce yazdım… Sondan önceki son çıkıştayız diye. Yine yazacağım… Tekrar tekrar yazmaya da devam edeceğim. Dünya ters yüz olmuş.  Dört bir yanda acayiplik, kokuşmuşluk, yozlaşma, hak yeme-yedirme, kadına şiddet, çocuğa istismar, gelir adaletsizliği, yaşam ve yasal güvencesizlik… Almış başını gitmiş… Şakası yok! Durumun vahametini idrak etmemiz için daha ne olmalı?

 

Yani… Kimin aklına gelirdi? “Bibi” Netanyahu’nun “hukuki reform” teşebbüsünde bulunacağı, buna karşı en demokratik işleyişe sahip devletlerden biri olmasına rağmen İsraillilerin sokaklara taşacağı ve hükümeti protesto edeceği, taleplerinde ısrarcı olup genel grevlerden tutun savunma hareketini yavaşlatmaya varacak kadar ileri gideceği, ve ülkede yaşamı durma noktasına taşıyacağı, dahası “We don’t want to end up like Turkey!” (“Türkiye gibi olmak istemiyoruz”) pankartlarıyla içlerindeki gelecek korkusunu dile getireceği, iradelerini, kuvvetini, kudretini böylesine güçlü göstererek Bibi’ye dur diyeceği… Şaka değil, gerçek!

 

21nci yüzyılda, uzaya gidiş ve yapay zekada bilinç keşifleri yapılırken, geçtiğimiz yıl kadınların İran’da temel insan hakları ve özgürlüğü için savaş vereceği, canını feda etme noktasına geleceği, protestolar ardından tutuklanmalar ve kadınların uğradığı vahşice muamelelere rağmen kadınların korkusuzca ve cesaretle direnişlerine devam edeceği, İran rejiminin bunu bastırmak için protestoculara 60.000 Dolar ceza uygulayacağı, ve kız okullarında okuyan 1000’den fazla kız çocuğunun (eğitimden geri kalmaları maksadıyla) zehirlendiğini işitiyor olmamız; dahası, bir çok İranlının Türkiye’nin bugünkü durumunu kastederek “Bir zamanlar biz de sizin gibiydik” diyeceği… kimin aklına gelirdi, öyle değil mi? Bu da maalesef şaka değil ve çok acı gerçek!

 

Çok uzak değil; 2021 yılı Ocak ayında Washington DC’de, dönemin başkanı Donald Trump’ın seçimleri kaybetmesiyle holigan kılıklı grubun Capitol Hill’e baskın yapacağı, bir Ortadoğu ülkesini andıracak sahnelere şahit olacağımız, yenilgiyi kabul etmeyip Trump’ın koltuğunda kalmaya direteceği, Türk yetkililerinin “Tarafları itidale ve ılımlı olmaya davet ediyoruz” mesajıyla bölgede yaşayan vatandaşlarına kalabalıktan uzak durmaları konusunda çağrıda bulunacağı da kimin aklına gelirdi, değil mi? 1 Nisan şakası adeta, ama değil, tatsız gerçek!

 

Şaka değil! Bir Ortadoğu ülkesinde değil de Amerika gibi bir ülkede bunlara tanık olacağımız kimin aklına gelirdi? Ortadoğu’nun göbeğinde, çölün içinde vahayı andıran İsrail devletinde bunların yaşanacağı kimin aklına gelirdi? Bir zamanlar medeniyetin, ilmin ve bilimin merkezi sayılan İran’ın bu denli çağın gerisine gideceği kimin aklına gelirdi? Sizce de hayret edici değil mi? Bir zamanlar (eski veya yakın geçmişte) demokrasinin, bilgeliğin, ve insan haklarının bekası olan ve yönetişimin, inovasyonun, yaratıcılığın ve çağdaşlığın öncüsü olarak gördüğümüz bu “gelişmiş” ülkeler nasıl olur da bu günlere gelsin. Akıl alır gibi değil!

 

Esas paradoks, her şeyin tersine domino etkisiyle ilerliyor olması. Yıllarca benzemeyi arzuladığımız, özendiğimiz ve örnek aldığımız batılı ülkelerin bugün geldiği duruma bakın… Adeta dünya tersine dönmüş ve onlar bizi takip ediyorlar. Haksız mıyım? Kimin aklına gelirdi? Yok, yok! Vallahi şaka değil ve gerçek! Türkiye’nin bugün ilerlediği yola baktığımda, takip ettiğimiz ve örnek aldığımız modelleri gördükçe gözüm korkuyor, kanım donuyor.

 

Tekrar söylüyorum… Kritik an ve yerdeyiz. Şakası yok. Son çıkıştayız!

 

Bu arada, enseyi karartmayalım. Dünyada iyi misallerle bizi takip eden ülkeler de var. Atatürk’ü ve ilkelerini kendine örnek alan ve Ulu Önderimiz Mustafa Kemal Atatürk’ün ismini, heykelini, büstünü, yani felsefesini yol gösterici olarak kendine edinmiş birçok dünya ülkesi* var. Liste aşağıda.

 

Şimdi soruyorum… Neyi örnek almalıyız, hangi yoldan gitmeliyiz, hangi izi takip etmeliyiz? Yolsuzluk ve gerici zihniyeti mi, yoksa Atamızın bize bıraktığı “medeni ve müreffeh millet olarak varlığımızı” sürdürme mirasını mı? İlkeleri ve felsefesi dünyanın dört bir köşesine örnek ve model nitelikte yayılmışken, neden tersini seçelim? Neden? (Bu soruya şu anda burada cevap vermeyeceğim!)

 

Atamızın bize bıraktığı Nutuk’un Gençliğe Hitabesini yeniden okuyunca, durumun önemini daha iyi anlıyor insan. Yani, kimin aklına gelirdi, 100 yıl sonra başa dönebileceğimizi? “Bir gün, istiklal ve cumhuriyeti müdafaa mecburiyetine düşersen, vazifeye atılmak için içinde bulunacağın vaziyetin imkân ve şeraitini düşünmeyeceksin… İşte, bu ahval ve şerait içinde dahi vazifen, Türk istiklal ve cumhuriyetini kurtarmaktır. Muhtaç olduğun kudret, damarlarındaki asil kanda mevcuttur.” sözleri halen son derece anlamlı, geçerli ve yerinde, öyle değil mi?

 

Atamın izinde çağdaş bir “genç” Türk kadını olarak, çağrım tüm gençlere, kendini genç hissedenlere, halen gençliğini yaşayanlara, yaşı geçkin olsa da gençliğinden vazgeçmemiş olanlara, durumun vahametini tümüyle idrak etmemiş ve geleceğini, hürriyetini, özgür ve özgün varlığını kıskaç altına almaya göz yummuş tüm gençlere…

 

Bugün 1 Nisan (şaka günü) olsa da ülkemizin şaka kaldıracak tarafı kalmadığına idrak olmanız için (aşağıya eklediğim) Atatürk’ün Gençliğe Hitabesini tekrar tekrar okumanızı öneririm.

 

Unutmayalım ki, tarih tekerrürden ibarettir; aynı zamanda aynı nehirde iki defa yıkanılmaz (Heraklitos). Vakit varken, içinde bulunduğumuz durumun farkına varalım, aklımızı kullanalım ve “sondan önceki son çıkışı” kaçırmayalım. Çünkü artık gerçekten şakası yok!

 

Barcelona’dan Shirli

01 Nisan 2023

 

‘Ey Türk gençliği! Birinci vazifen; Türk istiklalini, Türk cumhuriyetini, ilelebet muhafaza ve müdafaa etmektir.

Mevcudiyetinin ve istikbalinin yegâne temeli budur. Bu temel, senin en kıymetli hazinendir. İstikbalde dahi seni bu hazineden mahrum etmek isteyecek dâhilî ve haricî bedhahların olacaktır. Bir gün, istiklal ve cumhuriyeti müdafaa mecburiyetine düşersen, vazifeye atılmak için içinde bulunacağın vaziyetin imkân ve şeraitini düşünmeyeceksin. Bu imkân ve şerait, çok namüsait bir mahiyette tezahür edebilir. İstiklal ve cumhuriyetine kastedecek düşmanlar, bütün dünyada emsali görülmemiş bir galibiyetin mümessili olabilirler. Cebren ve hile ile aziz vatanın bütün kaleleri zapt edilmiş, bütün tersanelerine girilmiş, bütün orduları dağıtılmış ve memleketin her köşesi bilfiil işgal edilmiş olabilir. Bütün bu şeraitten daha elim ve daha vahim olmak üzere, memleketin dâhilinde iktidara sahip olanlar, gaflet ve dalalet ve hatta hıyanet içinde bulunabilirler. Hatta bu iktidar sahipleri, şahsi menfaatlerini müstevlilerin siyasi emelleriyle tevhit edebilirler. Millet, fakruzaruret içinde harap ve bitap düşmüş olabilir.

Ey Türk istikbalinin evladı! İşte, bu ahval ve şerait içinde dahi vazifen, Türk istiklal ve cumhuriyetini kurtarmaktır. Muhtaç olduğun kudret, damarlarındaki asil kanda mevcuttur.’

 

 

 

*Gurur! Ulu Önder Mustafa Kemal Atatürk’ün, Dünyanın Çeşitli Ülkelerinde İsminin Verildiği Yerler

https://onedio.com/haber/ataturk-yurtdisinda-anitlar-396920

Vise Belçika, Dhaka Bangladeş, Islamabad Pakistan, Mexico City Meksika, Santo Domingo Dominik Cumhuriyeti, Be’er Sheva İsrail, Amsterdam Hollanda, Wellington Yeni Zellanda, Caracas Venezuela, Havana Küba, Oostzaan Hollanda, Canberra Avustralya, Albany Batı Avustralya, Bükreş Romanya, Rotterdam Hollanda, Yeni Delhi Hindistan, Roma İtalya, New Jersey ABD, Yehud İsrail, Karlovy Vary Çek Cumhuriyeti, Utrecht Hollanda, Budapeşte Macaristan, Sialkot Pakistan, Üsküp Makedonya, Lima Peru, Tunus, Wroclaw Polonya, Kuşimoto Japonya, Santiago Şili, Bakü Azerbaycan, Astana Kazakistan, Aşkabat Türkmenistan, Bişkek Kırgızistan.

 

 

Mourning for the Loss of Hope

Since the morning of February 6, we have been experiencing shock after shock. What we have experienced, what we have seen, the feelings and thoughts that have been going through our minds are indigestible. We are at a place where even the famous phrase “I am left speechless” is not enough. Because as we dig out the living, the wounded, the dead from the rubble, anger, rebellion, fear, and all the dark emotions that come to mind surface out.  Where do I begin to describe the complex feelings I have? Yesterday, while talking to a friend, she said, “You are mourning the loss of hope”. She was right! You know when you lose a loved one, and your relatives try to ease your grief with the consolation of “time heals all wounds, get on with your work, this too shall pass”; but in vain, the flame of sadness that smokes inside you does not subside; you know that you have no choice but to accept and mourn silently, so you do that… We accept our loss to some extent because we know that we will all die one day in this mortal world. But how can we mourn for the loss of our hopes? Hope doesn’t die, it diminishes, it is sometimes exhausted and then revived. Whomever I talked to, whosever words or feeling I heard, the were the same… Loss of hope, grief of loss, and despair.

 

Do you know what loss of hope is? You work hard for something, you try and fail and try again, you make all your efforts to make it happen somehow. Nothing works and eventually you come to the point of giving up. In your relationships, in your work or in any area of your life, if your efforts are not working, what do you do, you give up the struggle and leave. With the earthquake, everything we had pinned our hopes on was destroyed. Yes, we knew about the corruption, the mismanagement, the lack of merit and incompetence, but we did not even imagine the lack of humanity we witnessed after the earthquake. That is the moment when my hope died.

 

Which of the incidents should I list? It hurts me even to think about them! The kidnapped children, the excavators walking to the wreckage when there were lives under the rubble, the rescue teams being kept waiting in plain sight, the Turkish Armed Forces and the Red Crescent being called back immediately after being sent on duty, the universities being closed to face-to-face education with no regard for the health of young people, the thousands of rescue and medical teams from abroad who were sent away, almost as if they had been “kicked out”, the time we had to sift through the information pollution spread by “evil spirits” and diseased humanoids, and the time lost in confirming the information of those waiting to be rescued from under the rubble, the politicizing of aid, the interception of aid trucks and confiscation of supplies, the theft of gold, money and credit cards from under the rubble, the looting of shops and markets, the harassment of women and children, the massive lack of coordination in disaster management from start to finish and actions that would constitute a violation of life, the attempts by the authorities to obfuscate and cover up evidence, the approvals given to “unsound” buildings and zoning peace in the earthquake zone, the security needed in the region and the ongoing disorganization… These are the ones that come to my mind at once. Surely there must be more. Even counting them makes my heart ache, and I don’t have the strength to remember the ones I have forgotten!

 

While struggling to adapt to the shock of it all, my father and I started talking about the feeling of “belonging” during a walk. More precisely, I was trying to understand myself by asking him questions and comparing his sense of belonging with my own. Eventhough we live abroad, we have always had one foot in Turkey. Not only in the physical sense, but also in terms of family, social, cultural and economic ties, we are and have always been connected to Turkey. Whenever there is a slightest insident -social, political or economic, our hearts beat with anxiety as if we were at our home in Istanbul. Turkish news channels are on in our homes, we follow the news 24/7 and we live in a social environment that resembles the Turkish diaspora. It is because of this sense of attachment that I have, I’ve been mentoring Turkish youth remotely for years, participating in volunteer work, and working for their development and empowerment. So, we are connected to our roots in terms of attachment, but there is also the issue of belonging, which is where things get complicated.

 

While chatting with my father and trying to define the concept of “belonging” for him, I realized that in order to feel belonging to a society or a country, one does not necessarily have to live in that country, nor does it suffice to speak its language and maintain its culture. I realized that the sense of belonging consists of seeing oneself as a part of that nation, identifying oneself with the lives, actions and thoughts of its people and perceiving oneself as equal and one with them. The Republic of Turkey to which I felt I belonged -that is secular, westernized, science-based, women and children-valuing, culturally and ethnically rich,  is gone, and in its place another one exists -that practices violence against women, harasses children, encourages thieves and promotes theft, and under the guise of religion and faith has turned into a haven for corruption and degeneracy. Just yesterday, the issue of adoption of earthquake victims’ children came up on the agenda; the Diyanet (religious body of authority) responded with “there is no barrier to marriage between the adopter and the adopted child” and gave the sick message of “don’t see and treat those children as your own.” I would like to ask you, how can I have a sense of belonging to a Turkey and its mentality that abandons even its children?

 

Unfortunately, I do not feel that I belong to the Republic of Turkey, which has been constructed by the malicious actions of some Turkish people. I refuse to be a part and extension of this mentality. As I see all that is happening, I am losing not only my hope, but also my mind and my faith. With feelings of rebellion, anger, sadness and despair, I cannot continue the struggle to protect the enlightened secular and western mentality, even if I wanted to. I have no strength left. The disasters we are experiencing are nothing but natural disasters called earthquakes and are inevitable; but it is the greed of the reactionary, ignorant and insatiable people in charge are the ones who have turned this into a tragedy. I was destined to mourn the loss of my hope!

 

Is that it? No! Like mourning the dead and then clinging to life with “life goes on”, there are of course branches to which my hope clings. Out of the chaos of the last 13 days, a great spirit of cooperation, coordination, collaboration, human love, trust and solidarity, and brotherhood emerged. Aid poured in from all sides. It is still coming. From every corner of the country, our dear people of the Turkish Republic, we have connected heart to heart. This is the spirit of unity that I feel I belong to, that I want to be a part of, and that I identify myself with.

 

What will happen next? The road is long. There is much more work to be done. Help, support and need will continue. The next stage is to restructure our Republic, to restructure a Turkey that our great leader and founder Atatürk left us. This will be the closure of an era -of mindset, and the opening of a new one. This does not involve a change of political regime, but an understanding of life; it involves a fair, transparent, ethical, human-valuing, honest, liberal, inclusive, egalitarian, we and not me mentality, based on science.

 

As I mourn the loss of my hope, I say “hope springs eternal.” My hope is in our youth. If anything good may happen, it will be thanks to them.

 

From Barcelona, with love.

February 19, 2023

 

A series of mistakes in crisis management before, in the first 48 hours and after the earthquake:

*Source: Aposto https://www.instagram.com/aposto/

– 294 thousand buildings were legalized with the zoning amnesties issued 9 times by the AKP.

– Between 2003 and 2022, taking into account the exchange rate-inflation difference, the earthquake tax amounting to 685 billion liras was spent on double-decker roads and airports.

– As of July 2018, only 5 out of 75 earthquake motions submitted to the Parliament were accepted. Only 1 of the 75 motions belonged to an AKP deputy, while the other motions were submitted by opposition parties.

– AFAD was weakened and neutralized. AFAD’s report on the 10 provinces affected by the earthquakes, which stated that there were insufficient resources, plans and coordination to respond to a possible earthquake, was ignored by the government.

– Emergency response started late because it was waiting for instructions. Centralized decision-making delayed the first response order; the response of local governments and civil society was hampered by bureaucratic obstacles for the first 48 hours.

– The army, which has emergency response capacity, was not mobilized. The military was not ordered to participate in search and rescue operations in the first 48 hours; the response to public order problems was delayed, creating public order problems in the region (in the 1999 earthquakes, more than 35 thousand army personnel were on duty in the first 12 hours).

– Communication infrastructure collapsed, internet and phone lines were cut, and the offer of Starlink to provide service for Turkey was rejected, saying that Türksat’s satellite capacity was sufficient.

– On the 3rd day of the disaster, access to Twitter was restricted, and access to the portal for rescue from under the rubble and calls for help from cities was restricted.

– Transportation infrastructure collapsed. Hatay Airport and some highways, which were built despite warnings from chambers of architects and engineers and the Air Force, have become unusable. Search and rescue teams, volunteers and aid trucks had difficulty reaching the region.

– Instead of seeking support from civil society, the government adopted the rhetoric that “the crisis is under control” and adopted a threatening tone in response to criticism of crisis management and calls for urgent intervention.

– Search and rescue efforts were insufficient. Thousands of people waiting to be rescued could not be intervened due to the insufficiency of construction machinery and equipment.

– Aid sent to the region could not be coordinated. Aid trucks had difficulty in reaching the region and the aid collected in city centers was not delivered to those in need.

– Political polarization got in the way of national unity. Political discrimination was made among non-governmental organizations that organized and delivered in-kind and cash aids provided by citizens to the earthquake zone. Some organizations, especially AHBAP, were targeted by the government.

– Unfortunately, the disaster is still unmanaged. The need for tents and containers has not been fully met. There are major hygiene and security problems in tent cities. Basic problems such as shelter, heating and food continue.

 

An (Absurd) Hypothesis on Gender Equality

I have written before that I stand by Yanındayız. As we pay attention to and work on diversity, inclusion, equality and especially gender equality, every stimulus from human perception to reactions becomes thought-provoking. I think we are moving towards becoming an exponentially growing in numbers. So, what is it that we think, what is our concern? Above all, why? Furthermore, how is it that men are at the forefront of this cause, caring about diversity and inclusion, showing their presence for gender equality, raising their voices, courageously saying we stand with women? What is the motivation? In two words, to create a win-win! But it goes deeper than that.

 

On January 19th, in a special session for Yanındayız (We Stand With You) members, I met Robert Baker, an expert on inclusion, leadership, gender equality, equal representation, etc. Robert is a man who believes that women and men will change the world together and he is an expert on these issues. And, yes, I absolutely agree with Robert that only when men and women work together will our world change. As for why, I’ll share a hypothesis I’ve been thinking about for a couple of years now, and I’ll link it to a few points I took from Robert’s presentation.

 

My hypothesis may sound a bit absurd. However, I don’t have the facts to prove it; I have a feeling, intuition, and observation of the stage of human development. Let me start by asking you… Do you think that gender inequality has always existed throughout human history? Is it possible that at some time centuries ago there was equality, and something happened to break it down? Is it possible that human nature, like other species, came with equal characteristics, but that there was a division of roles between them? Could it be that one has sacrificed its own characteristics, skills, power and status for the development, elevation, and transformation of the other? Could be?

 

We know that centuries ago, men and women were born with equal physical and mental strength, competence, and skills in the most archaic cave-like Homosapien state; one was neither superior nor stronger than the other; they had equal emotional and social abilities. For example, Spartan* women had the right to fight alongside men, to undergo military training, to own land, and to vote. Despite all, men and women were created with a difference that would disrupt equality: biologically, Mother Nature endowed one with sperm and the other with a uterus for reproduction and multiplication. In other words, she assigned the role of provider to one and nurturer to the other. And that’s probably what happened… I’m not talking about the superiority that the man acquired, appropriated, and ultimately claimed for himself through his role as provider, which he did over time. On the contrary, I want to emphasize the woman’s support to the man in developing, strengthening, and “specializing” in her role as provider through her nurturing (action) and nurturing role (being). This is where my hypothesis comes into play…

 

 

My hypothesis is this: Could it be that, at some point centuries ago, women made a kind of “development pact” with men and unanimously chose to hand over sovereignty to men? Could it be that they risked giving up their equal weight in social sovereignty with the motive of being a facilitator in the development, rise and all-round empowerment of men?  Could it be that they chose to do this of their own free will and consciousness, and that they did it selflessly, aware of what might happen to in the future? In an age when we still have not solved the Pyramids of Egypt or the Ziggurats of Mexico, we will not be able to solve the reality of these questions. However, if there were not a few elements that would make me believe these things, believe me, I would say to myself, “Shirli, you are talking nonsense”…

 

Women are known for their ability to multitask (multitasking), to pay attention to many issues (multifocusing) and to have the ability to see far enough ahead (envisioning), to sense the future before certain events have even happened. Therefore, she acts with the mission of giving from her essence, with love and compassion, to every member of society, whether that’d be child or adult, in line with their needs. The role of women in society is an example of a servant leader who is selfless and self-sacrificing. Regardless of the social identity she appears in – be it mother, aunt, sister; or teacher, senior manager, doctor, pilot, firefighter, politician – isn’t she always focused on development, protection and serving the need with her stance and actions?

 

The woman is the founder of society; in other words, she is the one who shapes the structure of society. She is the one who raises the man; she is also the one who supports his strength and power, that is, his sovereignty. Could it not be that the man has forgotten the development agreement they made with the woman in the archaic period and, intoxicated with power, has become even more ambitious to dominate with even more power; while the woman, with her philosophy of “do good and throw it into the sea” – that is, keep it for herself – has also forgotten the agreement and has chosen to live under the dominance of the man; as a result, the man and the woman have completely deviated from the Human 1.0 version and values and have become what they are today?

 

A woman is a woman who acts on her values, stands up for her values, and has the emotional, social and mental skills to transform the world from top to bottom. Have you ever wondered why she has never tried to take her sovereignty away from men? Is it because she is powerless, because she cannot unite and collaborate, or because she is waiting for men to reach that level of consciousness and stand by her side for the higher consciousness that “women and men will transform the world together”? I think the time has come; the higher consciousness has taken action. The name of the movement is the movement for equality, diversity and inclusion that has existed in recent years. It is much more than feminism, it is men standing alongside women with the same initiative, values, and beliefs to defend equality. Today this movement is manifested by men standing with women or those who are subjected to gender inequality; tomorrow it will take the form of men and women standing together against all forms of inequality. This will bring women step by step closer to their desire to bring prosperity, goodness, unity, and love to all segments of society.

 

I don’t know if my hypothesis seems absurd to you… Maybe I’m overthinking and questioning… I’m open to your ideas. As promised, let me close with an excerpt from Robert Baker’s presentation. Robert shared the reasons why men are and are not part of this movement, the gains when they are, and the stages of becoming allies in equality. He started with Gloria Steinem’s words: “Once men realize that gender roles are a prison for them too, they become really valuable allies. Because they’re not just helping someone else, they’re freeing themselves.” Robert shared that men involved in the movement for gender equality are liberated because they are able to share the provider role with women and are freed from the obligation to always be strong, capable, firm – the Alpha Male. Moreover, he shared that it allowed them to regain some of their emotional and social skills -skills such as self-concept, humility, intuition, care, vulnerability, empathy, vision, and collaboration, that had been dying out by the intoxication of power. Most importantly, he revealed where people are in the gender equality movement and how they show attitudes and behaviors across a four-tiered spectrum. Unfortunately, large segments of Turkish society are at the first step of the spectrum: they are unaware of the need for gender equality.  The second step of the spectrum is being aware of the need and leaning in; the third is being an advocate and supporter of equality; and the final step is actively leading for equality and being a change agent.

 

So, where do you think you stand on the spectrum of gender equality?

 

Robert shared so much more in almost two hours… It is impossible to fit it all here. If you are very curious, join us, stand with Yanındayız in the movement for gender equality, diversity, and inclusion. I promise, we are here to meet your curiosity, including a one-on-one meeting with Robert Baker, if you wish.

 

That’s all from me for now…

Shirli from Barcelona.

January 21, 2023

Standing With and Beside You!

New year means new beginnings. The new year is not only important for new initiatives, decisions, breakthroughs, and collaborations, but also for maintaining our works, collaborations and investments started in the past years. I have done a lot of crazy, at the same time “smart work” (that is what I would call) in the past years. I have made investments especially for social and human benefit, where I’ve carried out voluntary mentoring and coaching activities in various non-governmental organizations, whose target audience was mostly young people. Currently, again through mentoring and coaching, I am supporting young girls, although they do not have the same conditions and opportunities as their counterparts, with their empowerment and starting off life, through helping them shape their individual characteristics, competencies, and self-perceptions.

 

I think, as a woman who has managed to stand on her feet, living by her own choices with full self-confidence and belief, standing beside young individuals (not just women, but all) at their early stages of life, role modelling and being of guidance are probably my purpose of life. Indeed, I’ve been doing so since I started teaching, and I shall continue, because “once a teacher, always a teacher”. Acting with this motto and my roles as an academician, trainer, mentor, and coach, I am a guide, a mentor, an awareness raiser, and a channel for anyone who wants to access to knowledge and wisdom. To this end, I’ve always looked and sought for opportunities where I can actively participate and dedicate myself to and be a part of civil society movements that are align with my values, meaning and goals. I’ve collaborated as a volunteer, with numerous NGOs, I still doing so. Now, along with the first days of 2023, I am happy and proud to be part of another organisation – that is, Yanındayız Association*.

 

Within the framework of universal human rights perspective, Yanındayız (means ‘we are with you; beside you’ in Turkish) is an association that defends gender equality in Turkey, opposes gender-based discrimination, fights against all kinds of obstacles and prejudices, and ignites the movement that will lead to transformation and awareness in laws, institutions and social life; and most importantly, it is an association that continues this mitigation with the active participation of a crew of volunteering men. On January 3rd, 2023, I became a member of the Yanındayız, as a woman who not stands for with women and women’s rights, but also is beside and with every individual who has been exposed to gender inequality and discrimination. At the application form, where I’ve been asked the reason to become a member, I wrote “I want to be a member of Yanındayız, because…” as the following:

 

They say past is the mirror of future; I look at the present, because today’s conditions, actions, thoughts, and perspectives build the future and the realities that will befall our future generations. We will reap whatever we sow today and leave them to the future generations. I have worked with young people and young adults (approximately of 16-26 ages) throughout my professional life; I dedicated my efforts to their education, development, and empowerment in every sense, and I still doing so. I see them as our light of hop, in darkness. So, we have the duty to be a role model and a leader, so that every individual can have access to equal rights and opportunities, regardless of their gender, age, social status or position.

There is this famous illustration, depicting the distinction between equality and equity. As I see the reality of today’s equality, rights, justice, equity, etc., my hope is shattering, I lose sleep, and feelings of anger and violence rise in me. All I know is that ‘he who gets up in anger, sits down with a loss.’ If we wish to build equality, equity, and justice of all kinds for all, we should be co-creating through being in unity of goals, of thoughts, of effort and of labor, for mutual vision. Hereby, I want to be part of such a union and co-creation. I know, I cannot throw starfish into the sea all on my own, however being a part of an organisation, whose values meet my values, perspectives are aligned to my perspective, and its way of standing for equality is in harmony to mine, will add strength to my cause. Likewise, I believe that this I will add strength to the union with the knowledge, skills, and effort I possess. For these reasons, I want to be member of YANINDAYIZ.

 

It is not easy to express intention and motivation in a such short space. On November 17th, 2021, I shared my perspective on gender inequality in my article titled The Last Duel. I talked about the status of women in the male-dominated society, the perception of masculinity and the loss of freedom for the sake of the desire to protect their sovereignty, and the need for women and men to work together for gender equality. More than a year has passed, I can clearly see that the most important condition for social development and welfare is, within a universal human rights perspective, to offer everyone the equal, fair, and just treatment they deserve, rather than positive discrimination against any part of the society. Moreover, it is to remember and remind that each and every one of us is “human” (no matter the age) without discriminating as male or female, or child, adult and elder!

Having said it all, that I am standing with and beside equality and the NGO Yanındayız, I’d like to announce that on April 5th, 2023, Yanındayız will hold the third #kadınerkekeşittirnokta (meaning ‘women and men are equal, full stop’ in Turkish) Conference. In this special year, in which we celebrate the 100th anniversary of the establishment of the Turkish Republic, starting with gender equality, we hope to have many coming years, achieving equality in every sense and in every field, and finally saying “Long Live the Republic! Long Live Equality!”

 

Shirli from Barcelona.

January 8th, 2023

 

*Yanındayız Association- https://www.yanindayiz.org/

Values of the Association: “We adopt an active, consistent, transparent, and accountable understanding of peaceful struggle based on mutual trust and respect that envisages project and practices that we will be proud to take part in and is open to communication, participation, and cooperation.” (Yanındayız Association, 2021)

 

Translator: Handegül Demirhan

 

Sana İhtiyacım Var!

Öyle bir dünyada yaşıyoruz ki, güç ve başarı kişinin kendi kendine yetme becerisiyle doğrudan ilintili. En küçük yaştan yaşlılığa kadar, kimseye yük olmadan, kimseden medet ummadan, destek istemeden, hatta yardıma muhtaç duruma düşmeden yaşamak zorunda bırakılıyoruz. Giderek bireyselleşmeye doğru giden ve kolektif fayda algısından uzaklaşan toplum olmaya doğru gidiyoruz. Ne olur ki, az biraz, zayıflığımızı dışarı vursak, çok değil ama bir parça yardım eli için “Sana ihtiyacım var” desek ve dışarıdan destek alsak? Ne olur? Muhtemelen “Bir şey olmaz herhalde!” diyeceksiniz… Hayır! Çok şey olur! Tahmin edeceğinizden öte şeyler olabilir. Anlatayım…

 

Çok absürt bir soruyla başlayayım. Gıdıklanır mısınız? Hani bildiğiniz birinin yanınıza gelip parmaklarını kaburgalarınızda veya ayak tabanlarınızda gezdirmesiyle yaşadığınız irkilme hissi… Sonrasında istemsiz kahkahaların patlamasıyla son bulan süper bir neşe. Bizim ailede gıdıklanan çok, hiç etkilenmeyen de var -babam ve ben (nasıl olduğunu merak edenler, özelden yazsın anlatayım). Peki ya kendi kendinizi gıdıklamaya kalktığınızda neler oluyor, aynı ölçüde etkileniyor veya irkiliyor musunuz, yoksa ayaklarınızda gezinen parmaklar mı hissediyorsunuz? Yanıtlamak için denemelisiniz. Siz deneye durun, daha az absürt örnekten ilerleyeyim. Başınızın ağrıdığı zamanlarda, ilk ne yaparsınız? Ellerinizle şakaklarınızı, göz yuvalarınızı ve ensenizi ovalayarak kendinize masaj yapmaya ve ağrınızı hafifletmeye çalışırsınız, değil mi? Peki ne gibi sonuç alırsınız? Az biraz hafiflese de parmaklarınızla yaptığınız baskılar ağrınıza nerdeyse etki etmediği gibi uyguladığınız gücün hissini bile yaşamazsınız. Acaba neden? Çünkü, aynı kendi kendimizi gıdıklayamadığımız gibi masaj hareketlerimizle sistemimizde enerji değişikliği yaratamayız. İçinde olduğumuz enerjiyi değiştirebilmek için başkasının ellerine, parmaklarına ve dokunuşuna ihtiyaç duyarız.

 

Eh, şimdi başa dönelim… “Dışarıdan destek gücü alsak ne olur?” sorusuna… Gerçek değişim, dönüşüm ve iyileşme işte o zaman olur. Sadece fizyolojik değil, ruhsal ve zihinsel yönde de dönüşüm olur. “Bir elin nesi, iki elin sesi” atasözü yetmiyorsa, belki şu Afrika atasözü ikna edici olur: “Hızlı ilerlemek istiyorsan tek başına yürü; ama uzağa gitmek istiyorsan birlikte yürü.” Sistem teorisini* bilirseniz, daha kolay anlaşılır. Bizler birbirine ve iç içe geçen bağlardan oluşan bir ağın parçasıyız; ayrı değil, birlikte hareket eden bir bütünün parçalarıyız. Kapalı devre sistemi üzerine değil açık sistem üzerine kurulu davranış gösteren sosyal varlıklarız. Daimî olarak etkileşim, temas ve iş birliği içinde olmaya ihtiyaç duyarız. En basit başarı göstergemiz, rakiplerimize kıyasla elde ettiğimiz kazançlarımız değil midir? Bu satırları okumaya başladığınızda, bir ortağa olmasa da kesinlikle bir rakibe ihtiyaç duyacağınızı, hatta rakibinize “sana ihtiyacım var” diyeceğinizi tahmin etmiyordunuz sanırım. Komik, ama gayet de gerçek!

 

Peki başka neler mi oluyor? Bizler çıplak doğar yeniden toprağa çıplak döneriz. Hiç düşündünüz mü neden? Çıplaklık bir nevi hiçliği, yalnızlığı, tek başınalığı temsil ediyor. Her şey aradaki sürede oluyor; doğduğumuz anda sarıp sarmalanıyoruz, etrafımızda insanlar toplanıyor ve ölene kadar çevreleniyoruz. Yani “sana ihtiyacım var” çağrısına cevap verecek insanlarla çevrili oluyoruz; kendimizi yalnız değil, bir bütünün parçası hissederek daha güçlü, daha özgüvenli, daha mutlu ve verici bireyler oluyoruz. Bu sayede, salt kendi çıkarları ve geleceğini değil, toplumsal faydayı düşünebilen, onun için niyet edebilen ve harekete geçebilen duyarlı insanlar oluyoruz. “Sana ihtiyacım var” diyemediğimiz zaman kendi kendini gıdıklamaya uğraşan, neşeden yoksun ve çıplaklığıyla baş başa kalan duyarsız ve bencil toplumlar oluyoruz.

 

Kabul ediyorum… “Sana ihtiyacım var” demek pek de kolay değil. Yardım çağrıma cevap gelip gelmeyeceğini bilmeden, zayıflığımı dışa vurma ve yardım eli yerine sırtımdan bıçaklanma korkusu da var! Maalesef ki toplumuzda gözlemlediğim ve giderek de şiddetle artan baskın duygu sevgi, güven ve dayanışmadan ziyade korku, kaygı ve kontrol. Diyebilirsiniz, korku ve sevgi üzerine kurulu yaşam düzeni nasıldır, nasıl farklılık gösterebilir diye; o da örnekleriyle bir sonraki yazıma kalsın… Ancak, bir gerçek var ki, ben tüm yazılarımı sevgi kaynağından ilham alarak yazıyor ve bu satırları okuyan sen sevgili okuruma ulaştırmak için kalbimi, ruhumu ve tüm benliğimi içine katıyorum. Her bir satırını okuman ve mesajlarımı alabilmen için de okurum olarak sana ihtiyacım var!

 

Barcelona’dan sevgiler.

18 Aralık 2022

 

*Sistem teorisi: https://tr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sistem_teorisi

 

I Need You!

We live in such a world that power and success are directly related to one’s ability to self-sufficiency. From an early age, we are forced to live without being a burden to anyone, expecting help from anyone, asking for support or even being in need of help. We are gradually becoming a society that is moving towards individualization and away from the perception of collective value. What if, just a little bit, we express our weakness, not too much, but we say “I need you” for a pair of hands and get external support? What would happen? I suppose “Not much!” you’ll say…  No! A lot can happen! So many things beyond your prediction may happen. Let me explain…

 

I’ll start with a very absurd question. Are you ticklish? You know, the feeling of startle you experience when someone you know comes up to you and runs his fingers around your ribs or soles of your feet… An absolute joy that ends with the burst of involuntary laughter. There are many in our family who are ticklish but some are not at all – my father and I (those wondering why may contact me in private). But what happens when you try to tickle yourself, are you equally affected or startled, or do you just feel your fingers running on your feet? You must try it to respond. As you’re experimenting, I’ll move on with a the less absurd example. What’s the first thing you do when you have a headache? You try to massage yourself and relieve your pain by rubbing your temples, eye sockets and your neck with your hands, right? And what kind of results do you get? Although it is a little lighter, the pressure you apply with your fingers barely affect your pain and yet you don’t even experience the feeling of the power you apply. Why? Because just as we cannot tickle ourselves, we cannot create energy changes in our system with our own massage. We need someone else’s hands, fingers and touch in order to shift the energy hold.

 

Well, let’s go back to the beginning… To the question “What if we get external support?”. That’s when the real change, transformation and healing happens. The transformation happens not only physiologically, but also spiritually and mentally. If the proverb “One hand washes the other and together they wash the face” is not sufficient, maybe the following African proverb will be convincing: “If you want to walk fast, walk alone; but if you want walk far, walk together.” If you know the systems theory*, it’s easier to understand. We are part of a network made of intertwined and interwoven bonds; we are not separated, but parts of a whole that moves together. We are social beings that act upon an open system, not on a closed-circuit system. We feel the need of being in constant interaction, contact and cooperation. Isn’t our simplest indicator of acquisition our earnings compared to our competitors? I believe that when you first started reading these lines you didn’t guess you would definitely need an opponent, if not a partner, and even say “I need you” to your very opponent. It’s funny, but very true!

So what else is going on? We were born naked and we return to the ground naked. Have you ever wondered why? In some way, nudity represents a kind of nothingness, loneliness, solitude. Everything happens in between; we are wrapped around the moment we are born, people gather around us and we are surrounded until we die. In other words, we are surrounded by people who will respond to the calling of “I need you”; we become stronger, more confident, happier and more giving individuals by feeling ourselves as a whole, not alone. In this way, we become sensitive people who not only think about their personal interests and future, also about the social benefit, intend for it and act upon it. When we cannot say “I need you”, we become insensitive and selfish societies that struggle to tickle themselves, lack joy and are left alone with their nakedness.

 

I agree… It’s not so easy to say, “I need you.” Without knowing whether my cry for help will ever be answered, there is also a fear of being stabbed in the back instead of a helping hand in response to showing my weakness! Unfortunately, the dominant emotion that I observe in our society, which is increasing steadily, is fear, anxiety and control rather than love, trust and solidarity. You might ask, what is the life style based on fear and love, how can it differ anyway; let it be left to my next article with its examples… However, as a matter of fact, I write all my writings inspired by the source of love and I incorporate my heart, my body and soul in to bring these lines to you, my beloved reader. And I need you as my audience so that you can read each line and receive my messages!

 

Sincerely from Barcelona.

December 18th, 2022

 

*Systems theory: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Systems_theory

 

Why Writers Write?

As can be understood from the title of the article, one of the questions I ask myself is the role of the writership, the purpose of its existence and, in the deepest, the motivation that drives someone to write. Anyone who knows me knows that I constantly ask questions and often ask ‘why?’ rather than asking other questions. I am more interested in the origin of an event or phenomenon, rather than how it happens or its characters, for the fact that every cause has an effect and at the same time; while also the direction, course, and style of the event, together with the effect it creates, produce different results. Here this time, my question is about writership… Why a writer writes? There is no doubt, everyone, regardless of their profession, has different motivations and expectations. Looking out at this question from my own window, I asked to myself: ‘Me Shirli, as a writer, why am I writing?’ Here, I sought an answer and put my inner voice into words.

 

First, I would like to start with the question, ‘Am I a writer?’ Does writing essays and articles on different platforms and/or having a printed book make me a writer? Does having a fixed or random audience make me a writer? Does it make me a writer if I have a story, message, knowledge, or idea to tell and put it together in words? Or does it make me a writer if I love to write, and write with the mindset of ‘every product has a buyer; therefore, every article has a reader, and anyone who wants to read will just read’ and that if I write with the freedom of joy that comes from opening and spreading out my inner world? Well, I think it does!

 

With this question I got taken to ancient times and to the way professions were attributed in those societies. Professional identities were attributed to the person directly related to what they did, and by being accepted by the society. For example, in the ancient Greek Civilization, important members of the upper class gathered in the Agora to develop, research, and share their thoughts, that is, they would philosophise. Today we give the title of ‘philosopher’ to these great thinkers. Nevertheless, to be a philosopher today, it is necessary to go through various training and accreditation processes. In their own time, great thinkers became philosophers based on their knowledge, skills, intellect, analysis and synthesis skills, and their passion for generating and developing ideas, without being subject to any document or acceptance criterion such as diplomas, certificates, and accreditations. As a result, these people became philosophers by doing what a philosopher would do.

 

If you are a curious person like me, you may be wondering why I ask a question within a question. In other words, why do I derive the question ‘who is the writer?’ from the question ‘why a writer writes? My intention is not to create confusion, but to reveal a phenomenon in this way. It is to emphasise that our motives that direct our lives and motivate us, depend on two important concepts; moreover, to emphasise that our existence depends on their relationship, balance, and cooperation. These two concepts are being and doing. What does a writer do? S/he writes. To be a writer, it is enough to write, publish, have an audience, and be accepted by the society. There is such a dialogic between being and doing that they support and cultivate one another. One creates herself/himself as a writer by her/his actions, deeds, and products; and this identity s/he created pushes her/him to act and produce. In an eternal relationship, they continue to carry and support each other, without breaking from an infinite (∞) cycle. So, where is the question ‘why’; or, what is the motivation behind this?

 

There is a motivation behind every existence and action. Since action structures one’s existence, one makes conscious choices. At the same time, as existence pushes one into action, self-awareness and self-knowledge are of paramount importance. In brief, the element that provides the harmony between being and doing is motivation. The answers we give to the question of ‘why’, are what make us who we are and make us do what we do. The actions and behaviours of the person who knows himself are not arbitrary and random; on the contrary, they are conscious, meaningful and goal oriented. For the writer to know why s/he writes, it is essential that s/he is conscious of who s/he is, how s/he defines herself/himself, what kind of image s/he draws for herself/himself and the society. Provided that s/he knows who s/he wants to be, how s/he wants to define herself/himself and what image s/he wants to create in the society, only her/his actions can support her/him in that direction. So, whatever we do in life, whoever we are, it is very important for us to be conscious of our reason of existence and action.

 

As I come to the end, here is why I write as a writer. I think, I observe, I analyse, and I make inferences in my own way; therefore, I am! I want to tell my stories, knowledge, and inferences instead of keeping them to myself. I love to write. As I write and share, I feel that I contribute to the wisdom of the whole and I feel inexplicably happy. What is more, I feel enriched when there are comments, ideas, and perspectives from readers, who me give way to new horizons. As I write what’s within me, I feel free. In the case where I keep those to myself, I feel so filled up that would get explode. I can list pages of reasons…

 

To conclude, we all have great wisdom to impart, whether by writing or speaking, but certainly by sharing in some way. In this age of knowledge and wisdom, it’s time to let it all out, rather than keeping within!

 

With love, from Barcelona.

28th November 2022

Translated from Turkish by: Handegül Demirhan

Elon Musk and Twitter?

For the last week, I have been following the process of Twitter’s takeover, acquisition and the structural changes that followed. I confess, I am not a Twitter user. Even though I attempted to get into it at one point, it seemed like a boiling cauldron to me, so I left without getting involved. However, this platform is an open space where you can read first-hand what is going on with personal comments. Elon Musk associated Twitter, which he bought for 44 billion dollars, to a digital town square, referring to the Greek Agora. And he is not wrong. It seems like everyone, every topic and every idea is there. Although Elon Musk touts it as a democratic space where everyone can express themselves freely and different voices can be heard, I wonder how much so in reality, especially with him in charge? For example, what kind of a leader do you think he is in terms of human relations and human development, when he is seen as the pioneer of the digital age, the pioneer of progress, the one who is supposed to take human beings into space?

 

You may have been following the latest articles in the news. Right after Elon Musk bought Twitter, he laid off fifty percent of the employees. These people were notified of the layoffs when they were denied access to Twitter’s intranet and their computers were blocked. He suspended many anti-Elon Musk accounts or completely silenced the voices of tweeters who mocked him. The day after he took over, he ordered all his employees to come to the office full time; any exceptions had to be approved by him. Finally, he is said to have forced his own followers to vote for republicans.

 

How much of this approach is democratic, people-oriented and appropriate for the age of information and development? The platform that Musk is restructuring gives the impression of a “town square” that is shifting towards a despotic structure. In an arena of creativity and innovation, the democratic experience of freedom of expression that such treatment of employees, who we call internal customers, will give to external customers, i.e. Twitter users, is questionable.

 

I would like to interpret this phenomenon with a scientific analysis, an analysis based on organizational behavior and leadership. I have been teaching leadership within BA and MBA courses for more than five years, and my students and I have been studying the leadership approaches and personality traits of prominent people throughout history. These include leaders such as Adolf Hitler, Winston Churchill, Martin Luther King, Rosa Parks, Queen Elizabeth’s father King George VI, Captain pilot Chesley Sullenberger, lawyer Ruth Bader Ginsburg, lawyer James Donovan, scientist Joan Stanley and Steve Jobs. We analyzed the behavior, approach to people and events, and characteristics of each of them and attributed certain leadership traits to them. For example, we concluded that Captain Sullenberger was an authentic and servant leader, Attorney Ginsburg was a transformational and authentic leader, Hitler was a charismatic and autocratic leader, and Jobs was a charismatic and transformational leader. When I examine Elon Musk’s behaviors and approaches myself, though not yet with my students, I think he has the characteristics of an autocratic, transactional, transformational and charismatic leader.

 

Elon’s desire to be in control of every decision and his commanding approach makes him autocratic; his expectation that employees quickly adapt to the new customs in the old village and his tendency towards punitive practices to solve their individual problems with him makes him transactional; his boldness and risk-taking in the new management approach as a pioneer of the innovation and technology era makes him transformational; and finally, his belief in himself and his vision, sharing his passion for co-creating change, influencing and inspiring people makes him a charismatic leader. These 4 leadership traits, which seem to be on the extremes and resemble different typologies, complement each other a lot. For example, why charismatic and not authentic or empathetic; autocratic and not democratic; functional and not emotional and social skills-based?

 

Elon Musk and leaders like him are self-centered, not employee and follower-centered; they choose to stay away from concepts such as love, compassion or empathy. Their leadership power is based on influencing their followers, inspiring them and seeing them develop in line with their vision. Walter Isaacson*, the historian who wrote Steve Jobs’ autobiography, has argued that Musk is very similar to Jobs and Gates, in that all three do not expect love from others, prefer to avoid any kind of emotional connection in order not to compromise their vision, and even have the idea that if they use their emotional skills, they will lose their vision.

 

Jim Cantrell** talks to Business Insider about his experiences working with Elon Musk and founding SpaceX in 2001-2002:

“There are two different Elons, a good Elon and a bad Elon, and you never know which one you’re going to meet. The good Elon is funny, charming, someone you want to be a part of, someone you want to follow with big ideas. The bad Elon is loud, unfulfilled, difficult to work with because he feels that no one and nothing is enough or that you are not doing your job well enough. On the one hand, a good Elon who conveys his vision through inspirational speeches and ignites your passion for work by emphasizing the importance of what you do, and on the other hand, a bad Elon who fires all the top management…

 

When I first met him, he was in his late 20s, badly dressed, quite strange, but very bright and determined.  He wanted to prove that man could be a race of interplanetary travelers. When he showed me the first plans for the Falcon 1 and the first SpaceX vehicle they built, I was so impressed and wanted to be part of his vision. I worked as vice president of business development at SpaceX from December 2001 to September 2002. During that time I had a lot of conflicts with Elon; he yelled at me many times, I even had to change myself to the point of giving up on myself to work with him. One time he called me at three in the morning and asked where I was, why I wasn’t in the office! He said there is work to be done, you have to be here. He never expected anything from you that he wouldn’t do himself, but his demands were endless.

 

I think he would take Twitter to the next level in terms of productivity with his strong will. He always had a vision; he wanted everyone to be 100% aligned with the goals. Even though the goals were clear in his mind, he could not convey them to his employees with the same clarity. Twitter employees need to prepare themselves to be 100% aligned with his vision and mission. Otherwise Elon will treacherously walk all over them. But if they manage to align and have the courage to work with an overly dominant boss who demands all their time for their work, they will have a super fun journey. It depends on everyone’s expectations of life and career.”

 

In a nutshell, these visionary leaders, who are committed to taking humanity into space, to its development and ascension, are disregarding the basic needs of humanity, trampling on its very existence and creating the space-faring humanoids of the future. Moreover, as slaves to their own ambitions, they oppress not only their opponents but also themselves.

 

Now I ask you, what would you prefer – to be an interplanetary species that will go into space or to be a species that lives like human beings on earth in peace, love and tranquility?

 

That’s all from me!

Love from Barcelona.

November 13th 2022

 

*CNBC – 14 Eylül 2022: https://www.cnbc.com/2022/09/14/walter-isaacson-key-to-elon-musk-bill-gates-steve-jobs-success.html?utm_term=Autofeed&utm_medium=Social&utm_content=Intl&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwAR2kS_jCvw44CaxgwBHcDbnpleqx9n0_lJSW0oXGfiiy7E58seld0mOTUOA#Echobox=1668241040

**Business Insider – November 4, 2022: https://www.businessinsider.com/working-for-elon-musk-spacex-workplace-culture-twitter-jim-cantrell-2022-11?utm_source=facebook.com&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=sf-bi-main&fbclid=IwAR0wYPjCLcTejNjfT03CDefs8mFMRDdcXiMfaEibBa9wMAMs5Mi6XOZM5p8