Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz haftasonu, 1386 y\u0131l\u0131nda ge\u00e7en ger\u00e7ek hik\u00e2yeyi konu alan Ridley Scott (2021) yap\u0131ml\u0131 \u201cSon D\u00fcello -The Last Duel\u201d filmini izledim; filim Eric Jager\u2019in kitab\u0131 \u00fczerine kurgulu -Son D\u00fcello: Orta\u00e7a\u011f Fransa\u2019s\u0131nda Su\u00e7, Skandal ve D\u00fcelloyla Yarg\u0131n\u0131n Ger\u00e7ek Hikayesi. Hik\u00e2ye, eskiden yak\u0131n arkada\u015f olan iki sava\u015f\u00e7\u0131 \u015f\u00f6valyenin (de Carrouges ve le Gris) d\u00fcello yoluyla yarg\u0131lan\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 konu al\u0131yor. Le Gris, de Garrouges\u2019un kar\u0131s\u0131na tecav\u00fcz etmekten yarg\u0131lan\u0131yor. Mahkeme karar\u0131na g\u00f6re, d\u00fcello sonunda biri \u00f6lecek; hayatta kalan Tanr\u0131\u2019n\u0131n iste\u011fini, yani adaleti yerine getirmi\u015f olacak. Le Gris hayatta kal\u0131rsa aklanm\u0131\u015f olacak, de Carrouges\u2019\u0131n kar\u0131s\u0131 da ceza olarak bir kaz\u0131\u011fa ba\u011flanarak yak\u0131lacak. Spoiler vermeyeyim\u2026 \u0130zlenesi, bir o kadar da deh\u015fet verici bir film diyebilirim! Etkisinden uzunca bir s\u00fcre \u00e7\u0131kamad\u0131m. Orta \u00e7a\u011fdan bu yana yol ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z geli\u015fimi, de\u011fi\u015fimi ve d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc sorgulatt\u0131 bana; bilim, teknoloji, sa\u011fl\u0131k, y\u00f6netim ve sosyal anlamda m\u00fcthi\u015f modernle\u015fme ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f olsak da, baz\u0131 hususlarda -bilhassa kad\u0131n haklar\u0131 ve kad\u0131n\u0131n toplumdaki yeri konusunda, \u00e7ok da ilerleme kaydetti\u011fimizi s\u00f6yleyemeyece\u011fim. Nedenine gelince\u2026 \u015e\u00f6yle\u2026<\/p>\n
Bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn\u2026 21nci y\u00fczy\u0131lda g\u00f6receli geli\u015fmi\u015f toplumlarda kad\u0131n\u0131n geldi\u011fi ve gelebilece\u011fi yerini, stat\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc, sahip olabilece\u011fi imkanlar\u0131n\u0131, yapabileceklerini\u2026 bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn! Muhakkak ki ge\u00e7mi\u015ften bu yana kad\u0131nlar b\u00fcy\u00fck haklar \u201ckazanm\u0131\u015f\u201d olsa da -ki kazanmak i\u00e7in az m\u00fccadele ve cefa \u00e7ekmedi, toplumdaki yeri erkeklerle e\u015fit konuma maalesef gelememi\u015ftir! G\u00f6r\u00fcnen k\u00f6y k\u0131lavuz istemez! G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde halen 8 Mart D\u00fcnya Emek\u00e7i Kad\u0131nlar G\u00fcn\u00fc kutlan\u0131yorsa; bir yandan feminizm hareketleri s\u00fcrerken di\u011fer yandan ona kar\u015f\u0131t fikirler oluyorsa; kad\u0131nlar\u0131n erkeklerin yan\u0131nda e\u015fit var olu\u015funu savunan \u00e7e\u015fitli STK ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce kurulu\u015flar\u0131 faaliyetler y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fcyorsa; kad\u0131n \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar\u0131yla ilgili \u201ce\u015fit i\u015fe e\u015fit maa\u015f\u201d (equal pay for equal work), veya \u201ccam tavan sendromu\u201d (glass ceiling syndrom) gibi kavramlar ge\u00e7erlili\u011fini hala koruyorsa; ve kad\u0131nlar\u0131n ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fccretten y\u00fckselme olana\u011f\u0131na kadar i\u015f yerinde cinsiyet\u00e7i yakla\u015f\u0131m devam ediyorsa, o halde kad\u0131n haklar\u0131 davas\u0131nda, e\u015fitli\u011fi sa\u011flam\u0131\u015f olmada pek de ilerlemi\u015f say\u0131lmay\u0131z!<\/p>\n
Filmden \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131ktan sonra 1386\u2019dan beri bug\u00fcne kadar kad\u0131n\u0131n toplumdaki yerini sorgulad\u0131m! Tecav\u00fcze u\u011fram\u0131\u015f gen\u00e7 evli bir kad\u0131n\u0131n ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131, kendini savunma bi\u00e7imini ve bu olay kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda di\u011ferlerinin \u201cyarg\u0131lay\u0131c\u0131\u201d bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm; kad\u0131n\u0131n evlat ve e\u015f olarak y\u00fcklendi\u011fi rol\u00fc sorgulad\u0131m; kad\u0131na sahip \u00e7\u0131k\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken, hatta erke\u011fe ait bir malm\u0131\u015f gibi toplumda ona atfedilen rol\u00fc d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm; ve, erke\u011fin erkeklik alg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n nas\u0131l \u015fekillendi\u011fini ve \u015fekillendirildi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm\u2026 Y\u00fczy\u0131llar ge\u00e7ti, ama kad\u0131n ve erke\u011fin toplumdaki yeri pek de de\u011fi\u015fmedi, dedim kendime!<\/p>\n
Sonras\u0131nda, bu sosyok\u00fclt\u00fcrel olgunun tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m dillere yans\u0131mas\u0131n\u0131 inceledim. Mesela, modern T\u00fcrk\u00e7e\u2019de \u00e7iftler birbirleri i\u00e7in \u201ce\u015fim\u201d diyor; oysa ne ilgin\u00e7 ki, feminen-mask\u00fclen ayr\u0131m\u0131 olan baz\u0131 Avrupa dillerinde, erkekler e\u015flerine \u201cbenim kad\u0131n\u0131m\u201d anlam\u0131na gelen sahiplenici ve h\u00fckmedici s\u00f6zc\u00fcklerle my wife (\u0130ngilizce), ma femme (Frans\u0131zca), mi mujer (\u0130spanyolca), i\u015fti (\u0130branice) diyor. Kad\u0131nsa kocas\u0131na sahibim anlam\u0131na gelen baali (\u0130branice), erke\u011fim anlam\u0131na gelen mi marido (\u0130spanyolca), mon marie (Frans\u0131zca), ve eski Norse dilinde evin h\u00e2kimi anlam\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131yan my husband (\u0130ngilizce) diyor. Bu arada, \u201ce\u015fim\u201d s\u00f6zc\u00fc\u011f\u00fc t\u00fcretilmeden \u00f6nce, halen de yayg\u0131n kullan\u0131lan kocam ve kar\u0131m hitap bi\u00e7imlerini unutmamal\u0131. Kar\u0131m s\u00f6zc\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcn k\u00f6keni da\u011f\u0131 \u00f6rten ve kapsayan \u201ckar\u201d oldu\u011fu iddia ediliyor. Yani, kad\u0131n erke\u011fine her kocam deyi\u015finde, ayn\u0131 bir da\u011f gibi, onun bilgeli\u011fini ve y\u00fcceli\u011fini vurgulam\u0131\u015f oluyor; erkek de kar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 onu ya\u015fam\u0131nda saran ve kapsayan ki\u015fi olarak g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc dile getirmi\u015f oluyor. Ne ho\u015f, de\u011fil mi!<\/p>\n
Toplumun kad\u0131n\u0131 erke\u011fin yan\u0131nda konumland\u0131r\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7imine bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda, cinsiyet\u00e7i olmayan modern T\u00fcrk\u00e7e\u2019nin ve \u00f6z\u00fcnde T\u00fcrk k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcn di\u011ferlerine k\u0131yasla daha \u00e7a\u011fda\u015f ve e\u015fitlik\u00e7i oldu\u011funu s\u00f6ylemeliyim… \u00d6rne\u011fin, T\u00fcrk kad\u0131n\u0131na se\u00e7me ve se\u00e7ilme hakk\u0131 1934 y\u0131l\u0131nda verilmi\u015fken, \u0130svi\u00e7re\u2019de 1971, \u0130srail\u2019de kurulu\u015fuyla birlikte 1948, \u0130spanya\u2019da 1933 (Franko rejimi sonras\u0131 1977) y\u0131l\u0131nda kad\u0131nlar haklar\u0131n\u0131 edinmi\u015fler. (\u00dclkelerin listesine https:\/\/onedio.com\/haber\/ulke-ulke-kadinlarin-secme-ve-secilme-haklarina-sahip-olma-kronolojisi-971810 linkten bakabilirsiniz). T\u00fcrk kad\u0131n\u0131n\u0131n bug\u00fcn nispi derecede sahip oldu\u011fu \u00e7a\u011fda\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve e\u015fitli\u011fi Atat\u00fcrk\u2019e bor\u00e7luyuz. Ne var ki, vizyonunu ve icraatlar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fclebilir k\u0131lmaya \u00f6mr\u00fc yetmedi; ve bug\u00fcn halen kad\u0131n\u0131n erke\u011fin yan\u0131nda e\u015fitli\u011fi tart\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131yor, ba\u011fnaz alg\u0131 ve zihniyetin k\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131na u\u011fra\u015f\u0131l\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
Bu ca\u00e7abyla ilgili Yan\u0131nday\u0131z Derne\u011finin \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 ve #kad\u0131nerkeke\u015fittirnokta Konferans\u0131yla ba\u015flat\u0131lan kad\u0131n-erkek e\u015fitli\u011fi hareketi dikkate de\u011fer. Toplumun \u00e7ok geni\u015f kitlesinden payda\u015flar dahil etmesi, kad\u0131n ve erke\u011fin yan\u0131nda e\u015fitlik\u00e7i yakla\u015f\u0131m i\u00e7inde olmas\u0131 ve kad\u0131na pozitif ayr\u0131mc\u0131l\u0131k yoluyla de\u011fil, erke\u011fin de toplum i\u00e7inde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 zorluklar\u0131 ele almas\u0131 bak\u0131m\u0131ndan yenilik\u00e7i bir hareket. \u00c7arp\u0131c\u0131 olan \u015fu ki, erke\u011fin erkeklik alg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 ve sosyal \u00f6\u011frenim sonucu kad\u0131n \u00fczerinde hakimiyetini kendinde hak g\u00f6rmesini ve bunun psiko-sosyal kayna\u011f\u0131n\u0131 irdeleyen; bu konuda fark\u0131ndal\u0131k kazand\u0131rmay\u0131 ve zihniyetleri d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmeyi hedefleyen bir hareket. Belki de bug\u00fcne kadar takip ettiklerim aras\u0131nda en \u00f6nc\u00fcs\u00fc.<\/p>\n
Y\u0131llar \u00f6nce kad\u0131n konferanslar\u0131ndan birinde \u201cerkekler konu\u015fur, kad\u0131nlar yapar\u201d laf\u0131n\u0131 duymu\u015ftum. E\u015fitli\u011fi yerle\u015ftirmede kad\u0131n\u0131n aktif rol\u00fc kadar erke\u011fin de m\u00fcdahil olmas\u0131 ve par\u00e7as\u0131 olmas\u0131 \u015fart oldu\u011fu bir s\u00fcre\u00e7tir. Kad\u0131n ile erkek aras\u0131nda bir d\u00fcello de\u011fildir bu s\u00fcre\u00e7, bir i\u015f birli\u011fidir. Zira, erke\u011fi do\u011frudan ilgilendirecek, etkileyecek ve nihayetinde \u00f6zg\u00fcrle\u015ftirecek nitelik ta\u015f\u0131maktad\u0131r. Yaz\u0131ma konferanstan al\u0131nt\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131m, sosyolog ve feminist yazar P\u0131nar Selek\u2019e ait s\u00f6zlerle son vermek istiyorum: \u201cEgosu s\u00fcrekli \u015fi\u015firilen ve egemen mitleriyle \u00f6zde\u015fle\u015fen, bunlara yakla\u015ft\u0131k\u00e7a alk\u0131\u015flanan erkekler bir yandan da egemenlik \u00e7arklar\u0131nda s\u00fcrekli olarak i\u011fdi\u015f ediliyorlar. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u015fiddet kapasiteleri s\u00fcrekli olarak beslense de, ger\u00e7ek ya\u015famda tosluyorlar. Yani hakikatleri eziliyor, par\u00e7alan\u0131yor. Yani, s\u00fcr\u00fcne s\u00fcr\u00fcne \u00f6\u011frenilen erkeklik, iktidar vaadiyle iktidars\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n bir arada deneyimlendi\u011fi bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 oluyor.\u201d<\/p>\n
Konferans\u0131 izlemek isteyenler i\u00e7in Youtube linkini payla\u015f\u0131yorum.
\n(https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=wwzPSh1yICc)<\/p>\n
Sevgilerimle.
\n17 Kas\u0131m 2021<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz haftasonu, 1386 y\u0131l\u0131nda ge\u00e7en ger\u00e7ek hik\u00e2yeyi konu alan Ridley Scott (2021) yap\u0131ml\u0131 \u201cSon D\u00fcello -The Last Duel\u201d filmini izledim; filim Eric Jager\u2019in kitab\u0131 \u00fczerine kurgulu -Son D\u00fcello: Orta\u00e7a\u011f Fransa\u2019s\u0131nda Su\u00e7, Skandal ve D\u00fcelloyla Yarg\u0131n\u0131n Ger\u00e7ek Hikayesi. Hik\u00e2ye, eskiden yak\u0131n arkada\u015f olan iki sava\u015f\u00e7\u0131 \u015f\u00f6valyenin (de Carrouges ve le Gris) d\u00fcello yoluyla yarg\u0131lan\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 konu al\u0131yor. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5749,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[114],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6091","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yazilar"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6091","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6091"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6091\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6097,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6091\/revisions\/6097"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5749"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6091"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6091"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6091"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}