{"id":4959,"date":"2021-04-03T16:39:08","date_gmt":"2021-04-03T16:39:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/?p=4959\/"},"modified":"2021-04-09T16:39:40","modified_gmt":"2021-04-09T16:39:40","slug":"cahillik-yapma-sakin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/cahillik-yapma-sakin\/","title":{"rendered":"Cahillik Yapma Sak\u0131n!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>(Yazar\u0131 sesli dinlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n.)<\/p>\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-4959-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/27-Cahillik-yapma-sakin.m4a?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/27-Cahillik-yapma-sakin.m4a\">https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/27-Cahillik-yapma-sakin.m4a<\/a><\/audio>\n<p>Bizim ailenin me\u015fhur laf\u0131d\u0131r bu -cahillik yapma sak\u0131n! Babama ait. Bir yere gidi\u015fimde, seyahate \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131mda, arkada\u015flar\u0131mla program yap\u0131\u015f\u0131mda bana bu laf\u0131 ederdi \u201caman k\u0131z\u0131m, bir cahillik yapma!\u201d Ya\u015f 51, hala der\u2026 Bu laf\u0131n alt\u0131nda yatan mesaj \u201caman k\u0131z\u0131m yapt\u0131klar\u0131na dikkat et, fark\u0131nda ol, kendini koru, kolla\u201d var. Deli dolu z\u0131p\u0131r bir tip olu\u015fumdan ve beni koruma kollama motivasyonundan olsa gerek\u2026 \u00a0Hakl\u0131 bir yan\u0131 da var, zira \u015fu ya\u015f\u0131ma kadar ba\u015f\u0131ma bin t\u00fcrl\u00fc \u015fey geldi: havuzun dibine \u00e7ak\u0131l\u0131p burnumu k\u0131rd\u0131m, yazl\u0131kta d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcp \u00e7enemi yard\u0131m, 26 ya\u015f\u0131mda Los Angeles\u2019te arkada\u015f\u0131m\u0131n yan\u0131ndayken su\u00e7i\u00e7e\u011fi \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131m. Daha da sayabilirim\u2026\u00a0 \u00d6zetle, bu laf\u0131 pek \u00e7ok kere i\u015fitmi\u015fimdir, sonras\u0131nda babamla kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 birbirimize \u201ccahillik yapma sak\u0131n\u201d demi\u015fizdir. Son d\u00f6nemde, \u00f6zellikle Covid-19 y\u00fcz\u00fcnden \u00e7ok\u00e7a g\u00fcndeme geliyor. Neden mi?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u015e\u00f6yle\u2026 Bu sat\u0131rlar\u0131 kay\u0131nvalidemin \u0130zmir Karaba\u011flar T\u0131razl\u0131 k\u00f6y\u00fcndeki evinden yaz\u0131yorum. \u0130zmir k\u00f6rfezine tepeden bakan, do\u011fa i\u00e7inde, ku\u015f c\u0131v\u0131lt\u0131lar\u0131yla sar\u0131l\u0131 bir huzur k\u00f6\u015fesinden\u2026 Birka\u00e7 g\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne geldik; aile ziyareti ve kocam\u0131n 50nci ya\u015f do\u011fum g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fc ailece kutlamak i\u00e7in. \u0130yi ki de gelmi\u015fiz! Ne \u00e7ok \u00f6zle\u015fmi\u015fiz! G\u00fcld\u00fck, yedik, i\u00e7tik, dans ettik, komiklikler yapt\u0131k, ate\u015f yak\u0131p marshmallow \u0131s\u0131t\u0131p yedik, \u00e7ekirdek \u00e7itledik, da\u011f tepe y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fcp kozalak toplad\u0131k\u2026 Da\u011f\u0131n tepesinde, insandan ve karma\u015fadan t\u00fcm\u00fcyle uzak, bir ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131za beden-ruh-zihin sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 besledik. Bunlar\u0131n tamam\u0131n\u0131 da Covid-free ya\u015fad\u0131k.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Tabii buraya geli\u015f karar\u0131m\u0131z, o kadar da kolay olmad\u0131. Covid-19\u2019un yeniden \u201cpeak\u201d yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir d\u00f6nemde, Barcelona\u2019dan \u0130stanbul\u2019a gitme cesaretini g\u00f6stermemiz babam\u0131n \u201ccahillik\u201d kategorisine tam\u0131 tam\u0131na uyuyor! Risk-kazan\u00e7 denklemine koydu\u011fumda acaba ak\u0131ll\u0131 i\u015fi mi, cahil i\u015fi mi diye, sorgulamadan edemiyorum. \u00a0U\u00e7aktan indi\u011fimiz andan itibaren ya bir yerden vir\u00fcs\u00fc kaparsak, ya Barcelona\u2019ya d\u00f6nemezsek ve buralarda kal\u0131rsak gibi ak\u0131l almaz endi\u015feler silsilesi sard\u0131 beni. Al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f merkezlerine, d\u00fckkanlara, kafe ve restoranlara gitmedim; niyetim de yoktu zaten\u2026 Y\u00fcz\u00fcmde \u00e7ift maskeyle, elimde p\u00fcsk\u00fcrtmeli kolonya \u015fi\u015fesiyle, sanki ben \u201cben\u201d olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131m, paranoyak bir Shirli oluverdim. Bilin\u00e7 alt\u0131ma dahi i\u015flemi\u015f, ki, bir gece r\u00fcyamda maskesini takmayan biriyle kavga edip tak\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Kendime \u015fa\u015f\u0131yorum. Covid\u2019in ilk ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve yay\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 Mart-May\u0131s 2020 s\u00fcresince Barcelona\u2019da bu kadar rahats\u0131zl\u0131k duymad\u0131\u011f\u0131m halde, iki g\u00fcnl\u00fck \u0130stanbul maceramda kendimi kayg\u0131 ve endi\u015fe sarmal\u0131nda bulmak son derece rahats\u0131z ediciydi. Bu d\u00f6ng\u00fcden \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015f olmak b\u00fcy\u00fck bir nimet olsa da, i\u00e7inde s\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131p kalabilirdim; fark\u0131nda bile olmadan hayat\u0131m\u0131 hep bu kayg\u0131 ve endi\u015fe seviyesinde s\u00fcrd\u00fcrebilirdim; \u00e7evremde bir \u00e7ok ki\u015finin ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi! Korkutucu! En korkuncu, \u015fartlar ve ortam\u0131n yan\u0131 s\u0131ra, \u201c\u0130stanbul\u2019da durum \u00e7ok k\u00f6t\u00fc, \u00e7ok k\u00f6t\u00fc\u201d s\u00f6ylemlerinin yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 psikolojik bask\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u0130stanbul\u2019dan \u00e7\u0131kmak bile o bask\u0131n\u0131n hafiflemesine yetti; bir de \u00fcst\u00fcne k\u00f6y evine gidiyor olman\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi son 2 g\u00fcn\u00fcn a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00fczerimden t\u00fcm\u00fcyle ald\u0131. K\u00f6y evine her geli\u015fimde beni bir huzur kaplar. Bu sefer i\u00e7imde bir k\u0131p\u0131rt\u0131, akl\u0131m\u0131 kemiren zihni sinir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler\u2026 <em>Ya vir\u00fcs\u00fc alm\u0131\u015f beraberimde ta\u015f\u0131m\u0131\u015fsam; t\u00fcm aileye bula\u015ft\u0131r\u0131rsam; benden kaynaklanmasa da, ya birine bir \u015fey olursa\u2026<\/em> \u0130\u00e7imdeki v\u0131d\u0131-v\u0131d\u0131 \u00e7ekilir gibi de\u011fildi! \u00dcst\u00fcne bir de ba\u015f a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131 tutunca, i\u015fin kolay\u0131n\u0131 buldum ve dosdo\u011fru test yapt\u0131rmaya gittim. Kocam ve k\u0131z\u0131m d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f u\u00e7u\u015fu i\u00e7in zaten PCR testi yapt\u0131racakt\u0131, ben de pe\u015flerine tak\u0131ld\u0131m. Tabii ki sonu\u00e7 negatif \uf04a<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>T\u00fcm bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te, benim i\u00e7in sinir bozucu k\u0131s\u0131m, iyi oldu\u011fumu (yani negatif sonucu) bildi\u011fim halde emin olamay\u0131\u015f\u0131m, kendimden \u015f\u00fcphe ediyor olu\u015fum. Psikolojik bask\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcne zihnimiz bize \u00f6yle oyunlar oynuyor ki, bedensel semptomlar geli\u015ftirip kendi kendimizi \u201cacaba bende bir \u015fey mi var?\u201d ku\u015fkusuna d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fcyor. \u00d6yle bir noktaya geldik ki, do\u011fru bildiklerimizi sorgular, i\u00e7 sesimizi berrakl\u0131kla duyamaz ve kendimizden \u015f\u00fcphe eder olduk. Bir\u00e7ok anlamda dengemizi ve b\u00fct\u00fcnselli\u011fimizi sarsmakta olan acayip g\u00fcnlerden ge\u00e7iyoruz. Ger\u00e7ekten de, ara s\u0131ra soruyorum kendime, bug\u00fcn\u00fcn \u015fartlar\u0131nda seyahat etmek ve yerinden k\u0131p\u0131rdamak ne kadar do\u011fru? Acaba cahillik mi? Kula\u011f\u0131mda babam\u0131n \u201ccahillik yapma sak\u0131n\u201d laflar\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7\u0131nlamas\u0131na ra\u011fmen, i\u00e7 sesim bu i\u015fin do\u011frusu veya yanl\u0131\u015f\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131; ak\u0131lc\u0131 veya cahilce yan\u0131n\u0131n da olmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor. Kan\u0131mca, her se\u00e7imin do\u011frulu\u011fu veya ak\u0131lc\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 ki\u015finin i\u00e7 sesinin d\u0131\u015f seslerle ne kadar uyumlu oldu\u011funa ba\u011fl\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u0130tiraf ediyorum, karar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ald\u0131ktan ve \u0130stanbul\u2019a vard\u0131ktan sonra dahi, sorgulamalar\u0131m, i\u00e7 \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131m ve zaman zaman \u00e7eli\u015fkilerim devam etti. D\u0131\u015f sesler ve uyaranlar \u00f6yle y\u00fcksek sesle bombard\u0131man halinde geliyordu ki, bir ara i\u00e7 sesimi duyamaz hale geldim. Her ne olursa olsun, b\u00f6ylesine karma\u015f\u0131k d\u00f6nemde karar al\u0131rken y\u00fcre\u011fimizin sesini dinlemeye kulak vermeliyiz. Kurtar\u0131c\u0131 anahtar bu! Kimine g\u00f6re cahilce gelen bir se\u00e7im, benim i\u00e7in en ak\u0131lc\u0131 ve do\u011fru karar olabilir. Se\u00e7imlerimizin ak\u0131lc\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 ki\u015fiye g\u00f6re, durum ve ana g\u00f6re ve ortama g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015fkenlik g\u00f6sterir. Gelece\u011fi g\u00f6remem, ancak an\u0131 anda ya\u015fama ve hayat\u0131 kapsayarak ya\u015famay\u0131 se\u00e7en biri olarak, diyorum ki\u2026 Hayat\u0131 ve ya\u015fayacaklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ertelememeliyiz\u2026 Sorgulamal\u0131 ama b\u00f6l\u00fcnmemeliyiz\u2026 Se\u00e7imlerimizi \u00f6zg\u00fcrce, kendimizce ak\u0131lc\u0131 gelen bi\u00e7imde yapmal\u0131y\u0131z\u2026 Ve ya\u015fam\u0131 b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fckle s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmeliyiz\u2026<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>03 Nisan 2021<\/p>\n<p>T\u0131razl\u0131 \u0130zmir<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(Yazar\u0131 sesli dinlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n.) Bizim ailenin me\u015fhur laf\u0131d\u0131r bu -cahillik yapma sak\u0131n! Babama ait. Bir yere gidi\u015fimde, seyahate \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131mda, arkada\u015flar\u0131mla program yap\u0131\u015f\u0131mda bana bu laf\u0131 ederdi \u201caman k\u0131z\u0131m, bir cahillik yapma!\u201d Ya\u015f 51, hala der\u2026 Bu laf\u0131n alt\u0131nda yatan mesaj \u201caman k\u0131z\u0131m yapt\u0131klar\u0131na dikkat et, fark\u0131nda ol, kendini koru, kolla\u201d var. Deli dolu z\u0131p\u0131r [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4961,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[114],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4959","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yazilar"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4959","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4959"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4959\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4966,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4959\/revisions\/4966"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4961"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4959"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4959"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4959"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}