{"id":4951,"date":"2021-03-07T16:34:55","date_gmt":"2021-03-07T16:34:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/?p=4951\/"},"modified":"2021-04-09T16:35:41","modified_gmt":"2021-04-09T16:35:41","slug":"hayatin-cilveleri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/hayatin-cilveleri\/","title":{"rendered":"Hayat\u0131n Cilveleri"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>(Yazar\u0131 sesli dinlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n.)<\/p>\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-4951-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/26-Hayatin-Cilveleri.m4a?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/26-Hayatin-Cilveleri.m4a\">https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/04\/26-Hayatin-Cilveleri.m4a<\/a><\/audio>\n<p>Bu yaz\u0131ma \u201chayat\u0131n cilveleri\u201d diye ba\u015flamak istiyorum; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc, hayat\u0131n cilveleri umdu\u011fumuzda de\u011fil buldu\u011fumuzda gizli. Forest Gump filmini izleyenler hat\u0131rlar. Annesi Forest Gump\u2019a hayat\u0131 bir \u00e7ikolata kutusuna benzeterek \u201ci\u00e7inden ne \u00e7\u0131kaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilemezsin\u201d der (Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you\u2019re gonna get). Bu yaz\u0131mda da ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz hafta sonunu, adeta bir \u00e7ikolata kutusu gibi ne umarken ne buldu\u011fumu, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m deneyimi, hatta ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc payla\u015fmak istiyorum. Zira, bir \u015feye niyet etsek de hayat\u0131n cilveleri bumerang gibi bize d\u00f6nebiliyor, bekledi\u011fimiz olay bize etki edebiliyor, etti\u011fimiz niyet bize yarayabiliyor\u2026<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ne demeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 san\u0131r\u0131m hikayesiyle daha g\u00fczel aktaraca\u011f\u0131m. 16 ya\u015f\u0131nda k\u0131z\u0131m lisansl\u0131 kayak yar\u0131\u015f\u00e7\u0131s\u0131. Hafta sonu Barcelona\u2019dan \u00fc\u00e7 bu\u00e7uk saat uzakl\u0131kta Espot ad\u0131nda bir kayak merkezinde yar\u0131\u015fa gidecekti. Genellikle sporcular yar\u0131\u015flara aileleriyle gider; ancak Espot\u2019a aileler pek kat\u0131lmaz, ekip\u00e7e gider d\u00f6nerler. Biz de k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n ekip\u00e7e gidip d\u00f6nece\u011fi bir planlama yapt\u0131k. Cuma sabaha kar\u015f\u0131, Pazar ak\u015fam\u0131 ayn\u0131 yerden almak \u00fczere yar\u0131\u015fa g\u00f6nderdim. Espot t\u00fcm kategoriler aras\u0131nda, \u00f6zellikle pistlerin dikli\u011fi bak\u0131m\u0131ndan, en zorlay\u0131c\u0131 yar\u0131\u015f olarak bilinir. Her ne kadar yan\u0131nda olmay\u0131 istesem de ekip olarak gidip d\u00f6necekleri bir yar\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fundan, Espot\u2019u k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fcme, kendini a\u015fma ve konfor alan\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131na vesile olacak f\u0131rsat gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcyordum. B\u00f6ylece Espot\u2019a ekibi ve antren\u00f6rleriyle birlikte gitti. Ben de t\u00fcrl\u00fc programlar ve yap\u0131lacak i\u015fler listesi olu\u015fturarak hafta sonumu doldurdum. Ancaaaak\u2026 \u00e7ikolata kutusundan bekledi\u011fimden farkl\u0131 tatlar \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Cuma ak\u015fam\u0131 saat 17:00 sular\u0131nda k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n \u201c<em>yar\u0131\u015fta ba\u015fka anne-babalar da olacak; sen de burada olsan bana destek versen\u2026<\/em>\u201d mesaj\u0131yla t\u00fcm planlar\u0131m alt \u00fcst oldu. Esas\u0131nda, planlar\u0131m alt \u00fcst olmal\u0131 m\u0131yd\u0131, yoksa aynen seyrinde devam m\u0131 etmeliydi ikilemiyle kala kald\u0131m. Espot\u2019u k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n \u00f6z g\u00fcveni ve cesaretiyle kabu\u011fundan \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131na \u00f6nayak olacak bir f\u0131rsat olarak d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrken, hen\u00fcz kabu\u011funu k\u0131rmaya haz\u0131r olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve deste\u011fe ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011funu g\u00f6rerek, onu hayata haz\u0131rlamay\u0131 hedefleyen ebeveyn olarak teredd\u00fcte d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm. \u0130\u00e7imden \u201c<em>acaba kendi kabu\u011fundan \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131 i\u00e7in erken mi; acaba bu ilk Espot deneyimi olmas\u0131 dinamikleri de\u011fi\u015ftiriyor mu; acaba beklentilerimi y\u00fcksek mi tutuyorum\u2026<\/em>\u201d t\u00fcr\u00fcnden d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler ge\u00e7erken, benzer sorular\u0131 kendime sordu\u011fumu fark\u0131na vard\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Hayat\u0131n cilveleri i\u015fte! K\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n kendini a\u015fmas\u0131na f\u0131rsat olarak g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm Espot yar\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n bir defa daha kendimi a\u015fmama ve kendi kendime koydu\u011fum s\u0131n\u0131rlamalardan s\u0131yr\u0131lmama yard\u0131mc\u0131 olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 tabi ki bilmiyordum\u2026 K\u0131z\u0131m bana <em>yan\u0131mda ol<\/em> \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131 yapana kadar, nispeten halen yabanc\u0131s\u0131 oldu\u011fum \u00fclkede \u00fc\u00e7 bu\u00e7uk d\u00f6rt saat uzakl\u0131kta ve daha \u00f6nce hi\u00e7 yapmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m bir yolu bir ba\u015f\u0131ma a\u015fmaya ne istekli ne de kafaca haz\u0131rd\u0131m! Ayr\u0131ca, k\u0131z\u0131m i\u00e7in hangisi do\u011fruydu? Kendi ba\u015f\u0131na kalmal\u0131, g\u00fc\u00e7 kaynaklar\u0131n\u0131 ke\u015ffetmeli ve b\u00fcy\u00fcmeli mi; yoksa annesinden ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011fu destekle mi yola devam etmeli? Benim gitmem ve yan\u0131nda olmam onun b\u00fcy\u00fcme s\u00fcrecine iyilik mi edecek, k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck m\u00fc? Peki ya ben ne istiyorum; plan\u0131m\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeyi ve o yolu ar\u015f\u0131nlamay\u0131 istiyor muyum? Acaba o yolu bir ba\u015f\u0131ma yapabilir ve kazas\u0131z belas\u0131z (hele ki Covid-19 k\u0131s\u0131tlamalar\u0131 \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde) Espot\u2019a varabilir miyim? Bir de vard\u0131\u011f\u0131mda nerede kalaca\u011f\u0131m? sorular\u0131\u2026 Benim i\u00e7in zor bir ikilemdi.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ok yaydan \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131! Kalaca\u011f\u0131m yeri bulman\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, bana huzursuzluk veren bu sorulara netlik bulamadan cumartesi sabah erkenden yola \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131m. \u0130\u00e7im k\u0131p\u0131r k\u0131p\u0131r, midemde bir d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm, 258 km\u2019lik mesafeyi, \u00f6mr\u00fcmden d\u00f6rt saat de\u011fil de bir g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fc alm\u0131\u015f gibi yol ald\u0131m. Esas\u0131nda ye\u015fil, kahverengi ve mavi tonlar\u0131n\u0131n bulu\u015ftu\u011fu e\u015fsiz do\u011fa harikas\u0131 yerlerden ge\u00e7tim. Radyoda Kiss FM ve Spotify playlist ile nefis \u00f6tesi bir yolculuktu\u2026 Do\u011frusu, <em>acaba<\/em>lar\u0131m zihnimi kemirmese tam bir cennet yolunu ar\u015f\u0131nl\u0131yordum diyebilirim.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Yolun yar\u0131s\u0131na geldi\u011fim bir noktada, k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n yar\u0131\u015f pistinde oldu\u011fu, k\u0131sa vakit sonra da d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fc haberi geldi. \u0130\u00e7im allak bullak oldu! D\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f m\u00fcyd\u00fc? Belki kap\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131rm\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u2026 En \u00f6nemlisi, iyi miydi? Bir yandan yol al\u0131yorum, bir yandan nas\u0131l oldu\u011funu anlamaya, uzaktan bilgi almaya u\u011fra\u015f\u0131yordum. Yollarda nerdeyse hi\u00e7 araba yoktu, bombo\u015f; zihnimse i\u00e7 konu\u015fmalarla dopdolu! \u0130lgin\u00e7 olansa her \u015feyin fark\u0131ndayd\u0131m. Negatife kaym\u0131\u015f zihnim olabilecek en k\u00f6t\u00fc senaryolar\u0131 \u00fcreterek beni duygusal girdaba itiyordu. Mindfulness e\u011fitimlerinde anlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131m t\u00fcm \u00f6\u011fretileri sanki unutmu\u015f veya sistemimden \u00e7\u0131karm\u0131\u015f gibi yol al\u0131yordum. \u00a0Zihnim belli aral\u0131klarla \u00e7alan \u015fark\u0131lara kap\u0131l\u0131p i\u00e7 konu\u015fmalardan uzakla\u015f\u0131yor, sonra yeniden kapt\u0131r\u0131yordum!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ka\u00e7 kilometre b\u00f6ylece yol ald\u0131m, bilmiyorum. Ama \u015funu biliyordum ki, bu d\u00f6ng\u00fcden \u00e7\u0131kmal\u0131 ve kontrol\u00fc geri almal\u0131yd\u0131m! Nas\u0131l yapmam gerekti\u011fini de biliyordum. M\u00fczi\u011fi kapad\u0131m. Gelen t\u00fcm d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelere zihnimi <em>Dur<\/em>durdum! Derin derin nefes ald\u0131m verdim, zihnimi nefesimi <em>\u0130\u00e7ime \u00e7eki\u015f<\/em> ve veri\u015fime odaklad\u0131m! Beni kayg\u0131 ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce sarmal\u0131ndan uzakla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131p rahatlatana kadar nefes al\u0131p vermeye, zihnimi de nefesimde odakl\u0131 tutmaya devam ettim. Negatif sarmal\u0131ndan uzakla\u015f\u0131p olumsuz senaryonun yan\u0131nda ba\u015fka senaryolar\u0131n da olabilece\u011fini <em>Fark\u0131na<\/em> varana kadar nefes ald\u0131m verdim. Yava\u015f yava\u015f akl\u0131m yerine gelmeye ba\u015flad\u0131 ve olaylar \u00fczerine sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 <em>Anlam<\/em> y\u00fckleyebilmeye ba\u015flad\u0131m. <em>K\u0131z\u0131m d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f olabilir, yaralanm\u0131\u015f olabilir, hi\u00e7biri de olmayabilir. \u00d6nemli olan ben yolday\u0131m ve k\u0131sa s\u00fcre sonra yan\u0131nda olaca\u011f\u0131m. <\/em>Bu zihinsel ve duygusal <em>Yans\u0131tma<\/em>yla rahatlad\u0131m. Daha \u00f6nce ak\u0131l edemedi\u011fim \u015feyi yap\u0131p k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131 arad\u0131m; telefonda sesi keyifli ve gayet de ne\u015feliydi!!!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Yolda olan, ikilemlerin yolculu\u011funu ar\u015f\u0131nlayan bendim. \u0130lk zorlay\u0131c\u0131 yar\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 kendi ba\u015f\u0131na yapma cesaretini g\u00f6steren ve kap\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131rm\u0131\u015f olman\u0131n hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla ba\u015f etmeyi ba\u015faran da k\u0131z\u0131md\u0131. Fiziksel olarak ayr\u0131yd\u0131k, ama benzer yoldayd\u0131k. \u0130kimiz de d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fck; b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fck, s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 a\u015ft\u0131k ve konfor alan\u0131m\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131k! M\u00fczi\u011fi geri a\u00e7\u0131p \u201cLalalalala life is wonderful, lalalalallaala life\u2019s so far good\u201d \u015fark\u0131s\u0131yla t\u00fcnellerden, nehir yollar\u0131ndan, da\u011f yollar\u0131ndan k\u0131vr\u0131la k\u0131vr\u0131la, a\u011fz\u0131mda \u015fark\u0131 s\u00f6zlerini m\u0131r\u0131ldanarak yoluma devam ettim\u2026<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Son 24 saati ve ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131 ve \u00e7ikolata kutusundan ne umup ne buldu\u011fumu akl\u0131mdan ge\u00e7irirken, fark\u0131na vard\u0131m ki, hayat\u0131m\u0131za ald\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z ve bizi se\u00e7enlerin bizi daima bir ad\u0131m daha ileriye, geli\u015fmeye, b\u00fcy\u00fcmeye, konfor alan\u0131m\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131kmaya ve \u00f6zg\u00fcrle\u015fmeye itiyor. K\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n <em>yan\u0131mda ol<\/em> \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131 salt kendine hizmet eden bir \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131 de\u011filmi\u015f! \u0130\u00e7inden ge\u00e7erken g\u00f6rmek zor. Anahtar direnmekten vaz ge\u00e7ip ak\u0131\u015fa izin vermek, y\u00fcre\u011finin sesini dinlemek ve yola \u00e7\u0131kmak! Ben de aynen \u00f6yle yapt\u0131m\u2026<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Espot\u2019tan Shirli<\/p>\n<p>07 Mart 2021<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(Yazar\u0131 sesli dinlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n.) Bu yaz\u0131ma \u201chayat\u0131n cilveleri\u201d diye ba\u015flamak istiyorum; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc, hayat\u0131n cilveleri umdu\u011fumuzda de\u011fil buldu\u011fumuzda gizli. Forest Gump filmini izleyenler hat\u0131rlar. Annesi Forest Gump\u2019a hayat\u0131 bir \u00e7ikolata kutusuna benzeterek \u201ci\u00e7inden ne \u00e7\u0131kaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilemezsin\u201d der (Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you\u2019re gonna get). Bu yaz\u0131mda da ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4953,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[114],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4951","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yazilar"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4951","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4951"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4951\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4954,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4951\/revisions\/4954"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4953"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4951"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4951"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4951"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}