{"id":4865,"date":"2020-11-01T10:46:56","date_gmt":"2020-11-01T10:46:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/?p=4865\/"},"modified":"2020-11-25T10:47:27","modified_gmt":"2020-11-25T10:47:27","slug":"konfor-alanini-genisletmek","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/konfor-alanini-genisletmek\/","title":{"rendered":"Konfor Alan\u0131n\u0131 Geni\u015fletmek!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>(Yazar\u0131 sesli dinlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n)<br \/>\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-4865-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/17-Konfor-Alanini-Genisletmek.m4a?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/17-Konfor-Alanini-Genisletmek.m4a\">https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/17-Konfor-Alanini-Genisletmek.m4a<\/a><\/audio><\/p>\n<p>2020 \u00f6yle zorlay\u0131c\u0131 ve d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc bir y\u0131l ki, ilk g\u00fcn\u00fcnden itibaren \u2013ve g\u00f6r\u00fcnen o ki son g\u00fcn\u00fcne kadar, herkeste yeni deneyimler, de\u011fi\u015fim ve d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcmlere neden oluyor. Ben pay\u0131ma d\u00fc\u015feni fazlas\u0131yla al\u0131yorum&#8230; Ya\u015famam icap eden ve geli\u015fmeme arac\u0131 olacak ne varsa geliyor, ben de hepsini kabulle hayat\u0131ma, i\u00e7ime al\u0131yorum&#8230; \u015eaka de\u011fil, bu y\u0131l\u0131n her ay\u0131, her g\u00fcn\u00fc, her an\u0131 ayr\u0131 maceral\u0131, hareketli, ve al\u0131\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fumdan farkl\u0131 seyretti; s\u00fcrekli ilkleri ya\u015fatt\u0131, halen de ya\u015fatmakta. Hele ki, \u015fu son bir hafta i\u00e7inde \u00fcst \u00fcste ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m ilkleri d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcnce, hangisinin duygusal olarak daha zorlay\u0131c\u0131 oldu\u011funu ay\u0131rmakta zorlan\u0131yorum&#8230; <\/p>\n<p>\u0130tiraf ediyorum&#8230; bu sat\u0131rlar\u0131 1 Kas\u0131m g\u00fcn\u00fc, \u0130stanbul\u2019dan Barcelona\u2019ya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcmde yazd\u0131m. Okuyan yak\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131n \u201calaca\u011f\u0131n olsun Shirli&#8230; gelmi\u015fin, haber vermedin!\u201d deyi\u015fini duyar gibiyim. Hakl\u0131lar&#8230; son bir haftada ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m ilklerden biriydi bu&#8230; \u0130stanbul\u2019a geli\u015fimi kimseciklere haber vermemi\u015f olmam&#8230; Adeta gizli sakl\u0131 evime girip \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131m; gelen Whatsapp mesajlar\u0131na Barcelona\u2019daym\u0131\u015f gibi yan\u0131t vermi\u015f olmam; ve s\u0131rt\u0131ma motor takm\u0131\u015f gibi i\u015flerimi tamamlay\u0131p evime d\u00f6nm\u00fc\u015f olmam&#8230; hi\u00e7 de bana ait davran\u0131\u015flar de\u011fil! Bir yandan, bu d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f de di\u011fer seferlerden farkl\u0131yd\u0131&#8230; Yaln\u0131z de\u011fildim&#8230; D\u00f6rt senedir bizle olan kedimiz Minik ile d\u00f6nd\u00fcm&#8230;  Bu da ikinci ilk&#8230; Minik\u2019imiz veterinere kontrole zor giderken, Covid ortam\u0131nda havaliman\u0131, g\u00fcvenlik kontrol, u\u00e7ak vs. derken, \u015fimdi benimle evde yeni hayat\u0131na al\u0131\u015fmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor&#8230; Benim i\u00e7in ikinci ilk olsa da, Minik i\u00e7in b\u00fcy\u00fck bir ilk! <\/p>\n<p>Minik\u2019in i\u00e7inden ge\u00e7enleri ne kadar anlayabildi\u011fimden emin de\u011filim&#8230; ancak hislerini anlayabiliyorum. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc, o bu ilki kayg\u0131 ve korku i\u00e7inde ya\u015farken, ben de onun kadar g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ve a\u011f\u0131r ya\u015fad\u0131m. Zira, Minik\u2019in yeni evine adapte olmas\u0131ndan ve bizim de onun varl\u0131\u011f\u0131na al\u0131\u015fmam\u0131zdan \u00e7ok daha b\u00fcy\u00fck bir ilk var benim i\u00e7in&#8230; Barcelona\u2019ya d\u00f6nd\u00fcm ama&#8230; Nerdeyse \u00f6mr\u00fcm\u00fcn yar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 ge\u00e7irdi\u011fim evimi ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz sekiz g\u00fcnde bo\u015faltm\u0131\u015f olarak d\u00f6nd\u00fcm&#8230; Ulus\u2019taki evimden sabah\u0131n k\u00f6r karanl\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u2013belki bir daha o eve hi\u00e7 d\u00f6nmemek \u00fczere \u00e7\u0131karak d\u00f6nd\u00fcm&#8230; Bildi\u011fim ve al\u0131\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fum d\u00fczeni bozup, arkamda ge\u00e7ici bir d\u00fczen b\u0131rakarak d\u00f6nd\u00fcm&#8230; K\u0131sacas\u0131, konfor alan\u0131mdan t\u00fcm\u00fcyle \u00e7\u0131karak, Minik\u2019le beraber evimize d\u00f6nd\u00fcm. Bu ilkler hangimiz i\u00e7in daha zor&#8230; merak ediyorum. Hangisi daha travmatik&#8230; Hangimiz daha \u00e7abuk al\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131z&#8230; Bu sorular\u0131n cevab\u0131n\u0131 vermek ger\u00e7ekten zor&#8230; Zaman g\u00f6sterecek&#8230; Kesin bir \u015fey var ki, hislerimiz a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan belki de pek bir fark\u0131m\u0131z yok&#8230; Neden mi&#8230; Esas\u0131nda hikayesi 40 y\u0131l \u00f6ncesine, bir ilkin ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7 noktas\u0131na dayan\u0131yor!<\/p>\n<p>Sene 1980, s\u0131cak bir Haziran g\u00fcn\u00fcyd\u00fc&#8230; Ailemin aylar \u00f6ncesinde ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir kararla \u0130stanbul\u2019dan Tel Aviv\u2019e g\u00f6\u00e7 ettik. Hen\u00fcz 10 ya\u015f\u0131nday\u0131m&#8230; Ayn\u0131 Minik gibi, yata\u011f\u0131mdan al\u0131n\u0131p u\u00e7a\u011fa g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcld\u00fcm. \u0130ste\u011fim ve bilgim d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, konfor alan\u0131mdan \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131ld\u0131m. Ne dilini, havas\u0131n\u0131, ne de k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fc tarz\u0131n\u0131 bilmedi\u011fim bir yerde buldum kendimi&#8230; Konfor alan\u0131mdan \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131m da, kendimi buldu\u011fum yeni ortamda hayat hi\u00e7 de basit ve kolay de\u011fildi. Hatta \u00e7ok zordu diyebilirim! Kayg\u0131 ve \u00e7aresizlik hislerinin hakim oldu\u011fu, her \u015feyin kontrol\u00fcm d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda seyrediyormu\u015f ve normalden daha zorlay\u0131c\u0131ym\u0131\u015f gibi geldi\u011fi bir d\u00f6nemdi. Yeni ortama t\u00fcm\u00fcyle yabanc\u0131 olu\u015fum, haliyle zorluklarla ba\u015f etme ve hayatta kalma g\u00fcc\u00fcm\u00fc aray\u0131p bulma s\u00fcrecini tetikledi. \u0130\u015fte, o ilkleri ya\u015farken, korku duygu durumundan \u00f6\u011frenme s\u00fcrecine ve yeni beceriler geli\u015ftirme a\u015famas\u0131na ge\u00e7tim. Hakim olan kayg\u0131, korku, ve \u00f6zg\u00fcvensizlik, yerine problemlerle ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kabilme, hayallerinin pe\u015finden ko\u015fma ve yakalama g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc getirdi. <\/p>\n<p>Bug\u00fcn bak\u0131yorum kendime, 40 y\u0131l \u00f6nce habitat\u0131mdan kopar\u0131l\u0131p ba\u015fka bir d\u00fcnyaya kondu\u011fum gibi, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcc\u00fck masum bir cana benzerini ya\u015fat\u0131yorum. Hayvanlarda bu s\u00fcre\u00e7 nas\u0131l i\u015fliyor, bilgim yok, ama, insan konfor alan\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131k\u0131nca yeni alanlarda bulur kendini \u2013s\u0131ras\u0131yla korku, \u00f6\u011frenme ve b\u00fcy\u00fcme alan\u0131nda. Konfor alan\u0131nda kendini g\u00fcvende ve her \u015feyin kontrol\u00fc dahilinde hissederken, d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda belirsizlik ve bilinmeyenlerin etkisiyle kayg\u0131 ve korkuya kap\u0131l\u0131r&#8230; \u00d6nemli olan, girmi\u015f oldu\u011fu o korku alan\u0131nda s\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131p kalmamas\u0131&#8230; konfor alan\u0131n\u0131 geni\u015fletebilmesi&#8230; <\/p>\n<p>Nas\u0131l? Kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kan zorluk ve problemleri teker teker ele al\u0131p onlarla ba\u015f ederek.. Onlar\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zd\u00fck\u00e7e yeni beceriler kazanacak, \u00f6zg\u00fcven duygusu artacak&#8230; Yabanc\u0131l\u0131k duydu\u011fu yeni ortam ve belirsizlikler korku salan unsurlar olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kacak, ba\u015f etmesi ve a\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken geli\u015ftirici zorluklar (challenge) olarak hayat\u0131na girecek. Bu sayede, konfor alan\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p yeni ve daha geni\u015f bir konfor alan\u0131 yaratm\u0131\u015f olacak. Benim Minik\u2019im de bunu benzer \u015fekilde, eve girdi\u011fi ilk saatlerde uygulamaya ge\u00e7ti. \u0130lk a\u015famada korkuyla bir k\u00f6\u015feye ka\u00e7t\u0131, sonras\u0131nda bir ka\u00e7 odan\u0131n derin k\u00f6\u015felerine sakland\u0131. En sonunda merakla etraf\u0131 dola\u015fmaya, ke\u015ffetmeye ba\u015flad\u0131&#8230; Az biraz risk al\u0131p cesaret g\u00f6stererek ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131&#8230; <\/p>\n<p>Bu seferki yaz\u0131mda, \u00f6zelimden bir par\u00e7a \u2013son bir hafta i\u00e7inde zorlay\u0131c\u0131 ilkler ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 payla\u015ft\u0131m&#8230; Hatta 40 sene \u00f6nce ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m ilkin zorlu\u011funa ra\u011fmen, y\u0131llar sonra bilerek ve isteyerek yeniden yeni ilklere ad\u0131m at\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131 payla\u015ft\u0131m&#8230; Sizler de kim bilir hangi ilklerle ba\u015f ba\u015fas\u0131n\u0131z&#8230; \u015eu Covid ger\u00e7e\u011fi ile ya\u015famak, g\u00fcn be g\u00fcn onun getirdi\u011fi belirsizlik ve bilgi karma\u015fas\u0131 i\u00e7inde ya\u015fam s\u00fcrmeyi ba\u015farmak zaten ba\u015fl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na b\u00fcy\u00fck bir ilk! Benden na\u00e7izane, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcc\u00fck bir tavsiye&#8230; Hayat \u00e7ok k\u0131sa&#8230;. Ayn\u0131 duygu ve devinimlerle s\u0131n\u0131rlamak i\u00e7in \u00e7ok yaz\u0131k&#8230; Farkl\u0131 \u015feyler yapmak ve farkl\u0131 duygular tatmak i\u00e7in hayat \u00e7ok engin, renkli ve umut vaat edici&#8230; Bence, her ne kadar zor olsa da, \u00e7\u0131kmal\u0131 \u015fu konfor alan\u0131ndan&#8230; Geni\u015fletmeli, korkulara zorluklara ra\u011fmen&#8230; Ne getiriyorsa kucaklamal\u0131, ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131zla kapsamal\u0131, \u00f6\u011frenmeli ve b\u00fcy\u00fcmeli. Yoksa, bir a\u011fa\u00e7tan farks\u0131z, k\u00f6k ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yerde biter ve \u00f6lene dek ayn\u0131 yerde uzar\u0131z! <\/p>\n<p>Barcelona\u2019dan sevgiler&#8230;<br \/>\n1 Kas\u0131m 2020<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(Yazar\u0131 sesli dinlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n) 2020 \u00f6yle zorlay\u0131c\u0131 ve d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc bir y\u0131l ki, ilk g\u00fcn\u00fcnden itibaren \u2013ve g\u00f6r\u00fcnen o ki son g\u00fcn\u00fcne kadar, herkeste yeni deneyimler, de\u011fi\u015fim ve d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcmlere neden oluyor. Ben pay\u0131ma d\u00fc\u015feni fazlas\u0131yla al\u0131yorum&#8230; Ya\u015famam icap eden ve geli\u015fmeme arac\u0131 olacak ne varsa geliyor, ben de hepsini kabulle hayat\u0131ma, i\u00e7ime al\u0131yorum&#8230; \u015eaka de\u011fil, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4867,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[114],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4865","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yazilar"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4865","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4865"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4865\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4873,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4865\/revisions\/4873"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4867"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4865"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4865"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4865"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}