{"id":4758,"date":"2020-06-03T09:33:23","date_gmt":"2020-06-03T09:33:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/?p=4758\/"},"modified":"2020-11-06T17:23:06","modified_gmt":"2020-11-06T17:23:06","slug":"bahcemizde-gizli-anlam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/bahcemizde-gizli-anlam\/","title":{"rendered":"Bah\u00e7emizde Gizli Anlam"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>(Yazar\u0131 sesli dinlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n.)<br \/>\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-4758-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/6-Bahcemizde-Gizli-Anlam.m4a?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/6-Bahcemizde-Gizli-Anlam.m4a\">https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/6-Bahcemizde-Gizli-Anlam.m4a<\/a><\/audio><\/p>\n<p>Zaman zaman, hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bir pamuk ipli\u011fine ba\u011fl\u0131 oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz. Her an her \u015feyin olabilece\u011fini son \u00fc\u00e7 ay \u00e7ok canl\u0131 deneyimledik. Ancak, t\u00fcm karma\u015fas\u0131na ra\u011fmen hayat\u0131m\u0131z, pamuk ipli\u011fine de\u011fil de, iki sihirli unsura ba\u011fl\u0131: \u201columlu sosyal ili\u015fkiler\u201d ve \u201chayatta anlam ve ama\u00e7 duygusu.\u201d Harvard \u00dcniversitesi\u2019nde 75 y\u0131l y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fclen mutluluk ara\u015ft\u0131rmas\u0131na g\u00f6re, sahip oldu\u011fumuz ve y\u00fcr\u00fctt\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc sosyal ili\u015fkiler bizi sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ve mutlu k\u0131l\u0131yor.  Di\u011fer yandan, 60 y\u0131ld\u0131r y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fclen anlam ve ama\u00e7 ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar\u0131na g\u00f6re, anlam ve ama\u00e7 sahibi olanlar\u0131n \u00e7ok daha dayan\u0131kl\u0131 (resilient) olduklar\u0131, zorluklarla ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kabildikleri, ve zor \u015fartlara uyum sa\u011flay\u0131p (adaptation) hayatta kalabildikleri g\u00f6r\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f. As\u0131l ilgin\u00e7 olan, anlam ve ama\u00e7 duygusunun zor durumlarda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131; ve korunma ile sa\u011f kalmaya hizmet etti\u011fi&#8230; \u0130kinci D\u00fcnya Sava\u015f\u0131nda Nazi Soyk\u0131r\u0131m\u0131ndan (Holocaust) kurtulanlar\u0131n ortak noktas\u0131, ku\u015fkusuz ki, bulunduklar\u0131 \u015fartlara ra\u011fmen var olmak i\u00e7in anlam ve ama\u00e7 bulmu\u015f olmalar\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n<p>\u015eu son \u00fc\u00e7 ayd\u0131r, i\u00e7inden ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz durumlara bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda, gerek sosyal ili\u015fkiler, gerekse anlam ve ama\u00e7 bak\u0131m\u0131ndan \u00f6nceki d\u00f6nemlere k\u0131yasla, adeta bir s\u0131navdan ge\u00e7iyoruz&#8230; Her birimiz kendi \u00e7ap\u0131nda bir geli\u015fim kat etti. Sosyal mesafeye ra\u011fmen, sosyal ba\u011flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 geli\u015ftirdik; uzakl\u0131\u011fa ra\u011fmen, eskisinden \u00e7ok daha yak\u0131n ve derin ili\u015fkiler olu\u015fturduk&#8230; \u0130\u00e7inde bulundu\u011fumuz durum kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda, zorluk derecesi ve yetilerimiz \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcs\u00fcnde, tutum ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 farkl\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131k&#8230; Olaylar ve olgulara tak\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131, kayg\u0131l\u0131, veya yanl\u0131 bakman\u0131n yan\u0131 s\u0131ra, kendimizi tarafs\u0131z g\u00f6zle bakmaya e\u011fittik&#8230; Bir \u00e7o\u011fumuz yeni al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar, u\u011fra\u015flar, veya denemeler i\u00e7ine dald\u0131; yeni anlam ve ama\u00e7lar edinmeye ba\u015flad\u0131&#8230; Belirsiz ve de\u011fi\u015fken \u015fartlara uyumlanarak dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131k becerilerimizi artt\u0131rd\u0131k&#8230; T\u00fcm bunlar sayesinde, Covid-19 dalgas\u0131ndan olabildi\u011fince sa\u011fl\u0131kla ve huzurla \u00e7\u0131kabildi\u011fimizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum&#8230; Hatta, bahsi edilen ikinci dalgaya \u2013ki dilerim olmayacak, fiziksel, mental ve psikolojik anlamda daha dengeli ve sa\u011flam vaziyette haz\u0131r\u0131z. <\/p>\n<p>Peki ya, bunlar\u0131 yapt\u0131k da, kolay m\u0131 oldu? Tabii ki olmad\u0131! Ciddi emek verdik&#8230; Hayatta anlam ve ama\u00e7 edinmek, bulmak, veya sahibi olmak, hele ki bu zor d\u00f6nemin i\u00e7inden ge\u00e7erken, pek de kolay de\u011fil.. ama, g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz gibi m\u00fcmk\u00fcn&#8230; Hayat\u0131n anlam\u0131n\u0131 arayan bir gencin hikayesinden yola \u00e7\u0131karak, nas\u0131l m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olabilece\u011fini anlatay\u0131m&#8230; Hikaye, Paulo Coelho\u2019nun Simyac\u0131 kitab\u0131nda ge\u00e7iyor&#8230; <\/p>\n<p>G\u00fcnlerden bir g\u00fcn, hayat\u0131n anlam\u0131n\u0131 arayan bir gen\u00e7, k\u00f6y\u00fcn ya\u015fl\u0131 bilgesine gider ve hayat\u0131n anlam\u0131n\u0131 sorar. Bilge, \u201csana yan\u0131t\u0131n\u0131 veririm, ama \u00f6nce bir s\u0131navdan ge\u00e7men laz\u0131m\u201d diyerek, eline i\u00e7i zeytinya\u011f\u0131 dolu bir ka\u015f\u0131k verir; ve \u201c\u015fimdi \u00e7\u0131k, bah\u00e7ede bir tur at, ve tekrar buraya gel&#8230; amaaaa, dikkat et; ka\u015f\u0131ktaki zeytinya\u011f\u0131 eksilmesin!\u201d der. <\/p>\n<p>Gen\u00e7, bilgenin dedi\u011fini yapar; k\u0131sa s\u00fcre sonra y\u00fcz\u00fcnde ba\u015far\u0131 tebess\u00fcm\u00fcyle geri gelir&#8230; ka\u015f\u0131ktan bir damla bile eksilmemi\u015ftir! Bilge, \u201cbravo evlad\u0131m, hi\u00e7 ya\u011f eksilmemi\u015f\u201d deyip, \u201cpeki bah\u00e7ede ne g\u00f6rd\u00fcn?\u201d diye sorar&#8230; Gen\u00e7 \u201cka\u015f\u0131ktan ba\u015fka yere bakmad\u0131m ki!\u201d demekle kal\u0131r. Bilge genci yeniden bah\u00e7eyi dola\u015fmaya, bah\u00e7eyi incelemeye g\u00f6nderir; elinde zeytinya\u011fl\u0131 ka\u015f\u0131kla&#8230; K\u0131sa s\u00fcre sonra, gen\u00e7 bilgenin yan\u0131na d\u00f6ner ve bah\u00e7ede g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc g\u00fczellikleri b\u00fcy\u00fclenmi\u015f \u015fekilde anlat\u0131r&#8230; ka\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7indeyse ya\u011f kalmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r&#8230; Bilge, g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyerek \u201cHayat\u0131n anlam\u0131, senin bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131nda gizlidir. Hayat senin bak\u0131\u015f\u0131nla anlam kazan\u0131r&#8230;\u201d der. Sadece bir noktaya odaklan\u0131rsan hayat\u0131n ak\u0131p gider, fark\u0131na varmazs\u0131n&#8230; Halbuki, g\u00f6rebilece\u011fin t\u00fcm g\u00fczelliklerin tam ortas\u0131nda ya\u015farken, g\u00f6rememek ne b\u00fcy\u00fck kay\u0131p! Hayata anlam katan \u015fey, hedefe odaklanm\u0131\u015f haldeyken bile, \u00e7evrende olan\u0131 g\u00f6rmek, g\u00fczelli\u011finden istifade etmek, ve i\u00e7inden ya\u015fama dair zenginlikler \u00e7\u0131karmakt\u0131r&#8230; <\/p>\n<p>Peki nas\u0131l yapaca\u011f\u0131z; bir yandan hedefe odaklanm\u0131\u015f vaziyetteyken, bah\u00e7emizde olan\u0131 biteni g\u00f6rmeyi nas\u0131l ba\u015faraca\u011f\u0131z, diyorsan\u0131z&#8230; Zihninizi e\u011fiterek&#8230; Ara s\u0131ra \u015fu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ad\u0131mlar\u0131 uygulayarak: (1) bir anl\u0131k durarak; (2) yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z i\u015ften elinizi dikkatinizi \u00e7ekerek; (3) g\u00f6zlerinizi kapat\u0131p, bir nefes al\u0131p vererek; (4) g\u00f6zlerinizi yeniden a\u00e7\u0131p etraf\u0131n\u0131za merakla bakarak&#8230; (5) nerede oldu\u011funuzu, ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, ve neden yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bir defa daha hat\u0131rlayarak&#8230; ve belki de (6) \u201cneden\u201d sorunuza yeni yan\u0131tlar arayarak&#8230; \u0130ster var olan\u0131 tazeleme ihtiyac\u0131 i\u00e7inde olun, ister yeni anlam ve ama\u00e7 aray\u0131\u015f\u0131nda olun; yeni g\u00f6zle bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ve g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz her \u015fey, size hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n anlam\u0131na ve amac\u0131n\u0131za \u2013\u201cneden\u201dinize dair ip u\u00e7lar\u0131 sunacakt\u0131r&#8230; <\/p>\n<p>\u201cYa\u015famak i\u00e7in neden\u2019i olanlar, hemen hemen her nas\u0131l\u2019a (ko\u015fula) katlanabilir\u201d (Those who have a \u201cwhy\u201d to live, can bear almost any \u201chow\u201d) der Nietzsche. Ya\u015famda neden\u2019i buldu\u011fumuzda nas\u0131l\u2019\u0131 kolayl\u0131kla kurgulayabiliriz. Ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz ac\u0131lara ra\u011fmen, mutlulu\u011fu, hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 anlaml\u0131 k\u0131larak yakalayabilece\u011fimizi s\u00f6yler Viktor Frankl&#8230; Anlam ve ama\u00e7 edinmenin san\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 kadar uzaklarda ve eri\u015filmez b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015feyler olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131; aksine, hayat\u0131 anlaml\u0131 k\u0131lman\u0131n farkl\u0131 yollar\u0131 oldu\u011funu; ve anlam\u0131 (1) bir eser yaratarak veya bir i\u015f yaparak; (2) bir deneyim ya\u015fayarak veya biriyle etkile\u015ferek; veya (3) ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmaz ac\u0131ya bir tav\u0131r geli\u015ftirerek yaratabildi\u011fimizi s\u00f6yler&#8230; <\/p>\n<p>\u00d6zetle, \u015fu yeniden canlanma ve hayata d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f d\u00f6nemimizde,  hedefe kilitlenmi\u015f halde ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcrken, anlam ve amac\u0131n ka\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zdaki zeytinya\u011f\u0131nda gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de, esas\u0131nda bah\u00e7emizde gizli&#8230; Hedefe ilerlerken ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131zda gizli&#8230; deneyimlediklerimizde gizli&#8230; ve olgular kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda geli\u015ftirdi\u011fimiz tav\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131zda gizli&#8230; <\/p>\n<p>Dr. Shirli Ender B\u00fcy\u00fckbay<br \/>\n3 Haziran 2020<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(Yazar\u0131 sesli dinlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n.) Zaman zaman, hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bir pamuk ipli\u011fine ba\u011fl\u0131 oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz. Her an her \u015feyin olabilece\u011fini son \u00fc\u00e7 ay \u00e7ok canl\u0131 deneyimledik. Ancak, t\u00fcm karma\u015fas\u0131na ra\u011fmen hayat\u0131m\u0131z, pamuk ipli\u011fine de\u011fil de, iki sihirli unsura ba\u011fl\u0131: \u201columlu sosyal ili\u015fkiler\u201d ve \u201chayatta anlam ve ama\u00e7 duygusu.\u201d Harvard \u00dcniversitesi\u2019nde 75 y\u0131l y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fclen mutluluk ara\u015ft\u0131rmas\u0131na g\u00f6re, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4760,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[114],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4758","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yazilar"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4758","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4758"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4758\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4761,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4758\/revisions\/4761"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4760"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4758"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4758"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4758"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}