{"id":4743,"date":"2020-05-20T09:19:36","date_gmt":"2020-05-20T09:19:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/?p=4743\/"},"modified":"2020-11-06T17:23:34","modified_gmt":"2020-11-06T17:23:34","slug":"yeni-deneyimlere-yelken-acma-vakti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/yeni-deneyimlere-yelken-acma-vakti\/","title":{"rendered":"Yeni Deneyimlere Yelken A\u00e7ma Vakti"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>(Yazar\u0131 sesli dinlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n)<br \/>\n<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-4743-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/5-Yeni-deneyimlere-yelken-acma-vakti.m4a?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/5-Yeni-deneyimlere-yelken-acma-vakti.m4a\">https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/5-Yeni-deneyimlere-yelken-acma-vakti.m4a<\/a><\/audio><\/p>\n<p>Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz iki ay i\u00e7inde, iki y\u0131lda deneyimleyebilece\u011fimiz de\u011fi\u015fim ve d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc (transformasyon) ya\u015fad\u0131k; ve belki de hayat boyu alamayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z dersler ald\u0131k.  Ya\u015fant\u0131m\u0131z, al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z, ve hayata bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131m\u0131z tepeden t\u0131rna\u011fa de\u011fi\u015fti. 2020\u2019nin ilk haftalar\u0131na kadar, mutlak kesinlik i\u00e7inde ya\u015f\u0131yormu\u015f\u00e7as\u0131na, her ad\u0131m\u0131m\u0131z planlanm\u0131\u015f, ajandam\u0131z programlanm\u0131\u015f, seyahatlerimiz g\u00fcn-saatiyle belirlenmi\u015f,  gerekli t\u00fcm biletleme, rezervasyon gibi d\u00fczenlemeler tamamlanm\u0131\u015f vaziyette, uzun vadeli ya\u015f\u0131yorduk. Birden bire, g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyen mikroskobik bir organizma d\u00fczenimizi yerinden etti; do\u011fru bildi\u011fimiz her \u015fey de\u011fi\u015fti; yeni kazan\u0131mlarla, yeni d\u00fczene do\u011fru yol al\u0131yoruz&#8230; <\/p>\n<p>Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te neler \u00f6\u011frendik; neleri farkl\u0131 g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flad\u0131k; neleri var oldu\u011fu halde g\u00f6remezken g\u00f6r\u00fcr olduk; ve neleri g\u00f6rmezden gelmeye ba\u015flad\u0131k? Alg\u0131da se\u00e7icilik gibi; olgular, burnumuzun dibinde oldu\u011fu halde, ilgi alan\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda olunca dikkat alan\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n da d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda kal\u0131yor, ve g\u00f6rm\u00fcyoruz. Halbuki, \u201cneye bakarsan onu g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u00fcn.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>Bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te nelerin fark\u0131na vard\u0131m?<br \/>\n(1)\tMe\u011fer, ki\u015fisel bak\u0131m al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131 temel ihtiya\u00e7lar kadar \u00f6nemli, bak\u0131m hizmetleri g\u0131da tedarik\u00e7ileri kadar hayati konumdaym\u0131\u015f. Normalle\u015fme s\u00fcrecine giren t\u00fcm \u00fclkelerde ilk etapta faaliyete ge\u00e7en kuaf\u00f6rler ve berberler oldu; ard\u0131ndan di\u011fer k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck i\u015fletmeler, d\u00fckkanlar, kafeler hizmete ba\u015flad\u0131.<br \/>\n(2)\tEtkili ve empatik ileti\u015fim ile, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 sayg\u0131 ve sevgi becerilerimizi geli\u015ftirdik. Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz iki ayda sosyal mesafeye ra\u011fmen, sosyal ba\u011flar daha da g\u00fc\u00e7lendi. Aile fertleri daha fazla birlikte vakit ge\u00e7irdikleri gibi, payla\u015f\u0131m\u0131n derinli\u011fi ve kalitesi artt\u0131. Bir arada oyunlar oynama, film izleme, sohbet etme gibi yeni al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar edindik. Kendine vakit ve alan ay\u0131rma kavram\u0131 \u015fekil de\u011fi\u015fti, ve ayn\u0131 alan i\u00e7inde alan a\u00e7abilmeyi \u00f6\u011frendik.<br \/>\n(3)\tHayat\u0131m\u0131zda nelerin ger\u00e7ekten \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu yeniden hat\u0131rlad\u0131k. Hayat sokakta de\u011fil de evde cereyan etti\u011fi i\u00e7in, huzuru, mutlulu\u011fu, ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131, g\u00fcc\u00fc d\u0131\u015far\u0131da de\u011fil, i\u00e7imizde arad\u0131k; ve bulduk! Anne-babam\u0131z\u0131 haftada bir ararken, her g\u00fcn arar olduk; uzun sohbetler edip g\u00fcn\u00fcn ak\u0131\u015f\u0131nda onlar\u0131 hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n i\u00e7ine ald\u0131k.<br \/>\n(4)\tNeredeyse t\u00fcm hanelerden (en az) bir a\u015f\u00e7\u0131 do\u011fuverdi&#8230; Ekmekler, lahmacunlar, mant\u0131lar, karn\u0131yar\u0131klar, sarmalar, Adana\/Urfa kebaplar, karides tempuralar, ramazan pideleri, simitler denendi, yap\u0131ld\u0131, yendi; sosyal medyalarda fotolar gezdi; biri yer, (biri bakar :)), di\u011feri de yapar oldu!<br \/>\n(5)\tSprit\u00fcel varl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ve fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z artt\u0131. Kolektif bir bilin\u00e7, birlik, beraberlik kavramlar\u0131 \u00f6nem kazand\u0131. Evrende var olan en b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fcc\u00fcn sevgi oldu\u011funu, ve nihayet hak etti\u011fi de\u011feri g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flad\u0131k. Birimiz hepimiz, hepimiz birimiz i\u00e7in \u201cvar\u0131m\u201d tutum ve davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 yayg\u0131nla\u015ft\u0131.<br \/>\n(6)\tHayat\u0131n kendine has kurallar\u0131 oldu\u011funu, her ne kadar ona hakim oldu\u011fumuzu zannetsek de, kontrol\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn o kadar da olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlad\u0131k. Bir mikroskobik tanecik, insan\u0131n o kadar da \u201cb\u00fcy\u00fck\u201d olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, bizden daha b\u00fcy\u00fck bir g\u00fcc\u00fcn varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, ve kar\u015f\u0131 gelmek yerine uyumlanmam\u0131z gerekti\u011fini y\u00fcz\u00fcm\u00fcze vurdu. <\/p>\n<p>Geriye bak\u0131yorum da, al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n esiri olmu\u015fuz&#8230; Yeni denizlere yelken a\u00e7mak yerine, bildi\u011fimiz g\u00fcvenli koyumuzda kalmay\u0131 tercih etmi\u015fiz; ayn\u0131 \u015feyleri yapmaya, yemeye, ve konu\u015fmaya devam etmi\u015fiz. Ayn\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler, ayn\u0131 hisler, ve ayn\u0131 deneyimlerin etraf\u0131nda, k\u0131s\u0131r d\u00f6ng\u00fc halinde ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f\u0131z. Korktuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131za geldi\u011fi gibi, \u201casla&#8230;\u201dlar\u0131n da gelece\u011fi kayg\u0131s\u0131yla kontrol\u00fc elden b\u0131rakma cesareti g\u00f6sterememi\u015fiz. Amaaa&#8230;. \u201ceski normal\u201d dedikleri tan\u0131d\u0131k hayat geride kald\u0131&#8230; Hayat bizi korkulara, asla\u2019lara, ama\u2019lara ra\u011fmen, koydan d\u0131\u015far\u0131 itiyor&#8230; Art\u0131k halatlar\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zme ve yelkenlinin r\u00fczgar\u0131 alarak yola \u00e7\u0131kma vakti geldi. <\/p>\n<p>Bu karantina d\u00f6nemi, bir t\u0131rt\u0131l\u0131n kelebek olarak do\u011fana kadar kendini yenilemek i\u00e7in kozas\u0131nda ge\u00e7irdi\u011fi vakit gibi, hepimize bir ge\u00e7i\u015f d\u00f6nemi oldu&#8230; \u015eimdi kozam\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131kma vakti; kanatlanma, \u201cyeni normal\u201din getireceklerine, ve yeni deneyimlere yelken a\u00e7ma zaman\u0131&#8230; bizi neyin bekledi\u011fini bilmeden&#8230;   Uuuuhhhhh&#8230;. bir korku sard\u0131, de\u011fil mi? Bilinmezli\u011fin korkusu! Ama merak etmeyin&#8230; bununla da ba\u015f edecek becerilerimiz ve bilgeli\u011fimiz i\u00e7imizde, bizimle. Paulo Coelho, Zahir kitab\u0131nda bunu \u015fu s\u00f6zlerle harika ifade ediyor: \u201cYapman gereken tek \u015fey, dikkatini vermek; \u00f6\u011fretiler daima haz\u0131r oldu\u011funda gelir; ve i\u015faretleri okuyabilirsen e\u011fer, bir sonraki ad\u0131m\u0131 atman i\u00e7in ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011fun t\u00fcm bilgiyi edinirsin.\u201d <\/p>\n<p>Do\u011fan\u0131n yeniden uyand\u0131\u011f\u0131 bahar ve yaz mevsimiyle beraber, bizler de yeni deneyimlere yelken a\u00e7\u0131yoruz bu g\u00fcnlerde&#8230; yeni sularda, yeni dalgalarla&#8230; ya\u015fam s\u00fcrmeyi \u00f6\u011freniyoruz! Peki ya \u201cyeni normal\u201d nas\u0131l olacak? Nas\u0131l olmas\u0131n\u0131 istiyorsak, yeni al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z da \u00f6yle olacak. Gelen \u015fartlara uyumlanarak olacak. Kat\u0131, \u201casla\u201d tarz\u0131 tepkilerden uzak,  esnek, \u201cneden olmas\u0131n\u201d tarz\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelere kayarak olacak. Korku, endi\u015fe, kayg\u0131 duygular\u0131n\u0131 hi\u00e7e saymadan \u2013aksine onlar\u0131 kucaklayarak, ve merak, \u00f6zg\u00fcven, \u00f6z-\u015fefkat, ve \u00f6z-sevgiyi yan\u0131na arkada\u015f alarak olacak. Her ko\u015fulda, yeni sular\u0131n eski dura\u011fan olanlara k\u0131yasla daha canl\u0131, daha verimli, ve daha hayat dolu oldu\u011funu hat\u0131rlayarak olacak&#8230; Ve, \u201cher ne gelecekse, ho\u015f gelsin, buraday\u0131m, haz\u0131r\u0131m, var\u0131m!\u201d ile hayat\u0131 kucaklayarak, yeni normali \u00f6zg\u00fcrce kucaklayaca\u011f\u0131z. Mindfulness\u2019\u0131n babas\u0131 John Kabat-Zinn\u2019in dedi\u011fi gibi,  \u201cDalgalar\u0131 durduramazs\u0131n, ama dalga s\u00f6rf\u00fc yapmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenebilirsin.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Dr. Shirli Ender B\u00fcy\u00fckbay<br \/>\n20 May\u0131s 2020<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(Yazar\u0131 sesli dinlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n) Ge\u00e7ti\u011fimiz iki ay i\u00e7inde, iki y\u0131lda deneyimleyebilece\u011fimiz de\u011fi\u015fim ve d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc (transformasyon) ya\u015fad\u0131k; ve belki de hayat boyu alamayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z dersler ald\u0131k. Ya\u015fant\u0131m\u0131z, al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z, ve hayata bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131m\u0131z tepeden t\u0131rna\u011fa de\u011fi\u015fti. 2020\u2019nin ilk haftalar\u0131na kadar, mutlak kesinlik i\u00e7inde ya\u015f\u0131yormu\u015f\u00e7as\u0131na, her ad\u0131m\u0131m\u0131z planlanm\u0131\u015f, ajandam\u0131z programlanm\u0131\u015f, seyahatlerimiz g\u00fcn-saatiyle belirlenmi\u015f, gerekli t\u00fcm biletleme, rezervasyon gibi [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4744,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[114],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4743","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yazilar"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4743","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4743"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4743\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4752,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4743\/revisions\/4752"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4744"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4743"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4743"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindthepositive.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4743"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}